Tuesday, December 21, 2010
How to Find a Domme
How to start?
If your wife shows no interest and you are afraid to bring it up, you have a couple of options. One is to introduce her to me on here. Tell her that you ran across a website where a relationship that had problems became stronger when the wife took control of what happen in the house while the man controlled the outside. That means he is strong and hard working to the outside world but at home he is mine. Your wife needs to know that you masturbate when not around her and that she needs to take ownership of your cock. Whether you have my blog make that point or a chat session or maybe an honest conversation will get you going down the road.
However you do it, you need to let her know that you want to be more connected with her. This means that you have obligations to her and her to you. Start small. Don't go for everything at once. Introduce this as a game for a weekend and let her know how much closer you felt because of it. Show her extra attention while playing. Then try it for a week. She will soon prefer the way you respond to her MORE when she controls your orgasms then when she doesn't.
With the start in a small way that doesn't scare her SLOWLY add longer time to the small things. Don't add more things yet. Just get her comfortable with the simplest ones.
After this, get her to read on things or chat to people like me. There are many places for that. Collarme.com is one. Alt.com is another. Many like Fetlife.com.
The next step will be having friends in the lifestyle. This is about where I am now. I am just getting to the point where I could go to a club or gathering to watch things going on.
The main thing here is that you need to be honest and have a good conversation with her. Don't be a wuss. In a good relationship, you both need to open up. Be smart about when you share it. Do it when playing in bed maybe. Remember not to overwhelm and scare her. Start small...unless she is wilder or more open than most.
For the single men,
You need to first be comfortable with dating. Confidence in yourself is important. I don't want my man to be a door mat. I want him to be strong and submit to me his sex. That is more erotic than a wuss who says 'yes Maam' 'no Maam' and isn't a real person. If that is you, I personally would get tired of having such a weak man. The allure is getting a powerful man to change when alone with you - at least it is for me.
After you get comfortable with yourself and feel confident that you don't give off a creepy feel (trust me, many of you do), start meeting people. Creative types are typically more open. Go to meetings if you can do that. That isn't me. It seems the best place for people of similar interests to meet is online. So chat with lots of people and meet. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.
With all of this, a sense of humor helps and good personal hygiene. Don't be an Adam Sandler type - try for the more charming types like Craig Ferguson.
If you have questions, you can always email me at email@example.com or Yahoo IM at wifekeyholder.
I hope this helps.