As she says, men are "wired to turn on to the techniques of female domination; they can’t help that...And the power of these techniques to excite is far greater than the tendency of monogamy to bore. If your man can’t have you whenever he wants, if he gets to experience that yummy little thrill only on your terms, boredom never sets in. He remains always a bit insecure, always eager to please you, always horny for you."
If he is caged, you can be sure that he is in a constant state of arousal - at least in his head. This eliminates the boredom and keeps the spice there much longer than the average couple.
What makes it even better is if you can tease your man with little things throughout the day. The combination keeps them wired to make you happy as they continue to try and get you to allow them out of their chastity and into, well, you.
She also talks about intimacy. Early on, men want to share everything with you although they might edit some of the things they don't want you to know or fear will gross you out. As you are together longer, that sharing of feelings goes away with the weight of daily things creating emotional distance. What happens with many couples is a type of competition where at least the men feel the need to win the argument or whatever the conflict is - not good to happiness.
The control or chastity puts the man into a vulnerable position just as he was earlier in the relationship. Secret feelings and emotions can be shared more openly. Because of that greater openness, the love remains fresh and there is less of a chance for walls to build or libidos to stray.
Those are only a couple of points in the book that I wanted to mention. I will bring up more later. Men who read this but are afraid to share those feelings with their wives or significant others should think hard about being more open. If your partner isn't open to things, show her this post. The chastity isn't just about being kinky but it is a way to create more intimacy. If she really loves you, she should be flattered by the openness. If not, you have deeper problems and probably need a marriage counselor pronto.
These are just my thoughts. I know everyone won't agree but this has really strengthened our relationship. Also, here is one foot pic for those of you looking for them. More tomorrow.
