Wife on Top

We got to play on Saturday but not nearly long enough.  Our child did not want to sleep over at her friend's house and came home around 8pm.  That still gave us time to have some fun.  After having him run errands, do a few things around the house and shave his upper body and pubic area bare, we went to the bedroom where I let him remove the cock cage.  He gave me a great massage for the longest time.  After a while, I let him go down on me - something I don't allow that often and lick me to a nice orgasm.  After that, I had him get out the massager and massage a couple of more orgasms out of me while I teased his cock to the edge.  It is amazing how sensitive his cock is after two weeks in the cage.  I had to stop all of the time as he couldn't handle the strokes.  Next, I told him to lie down and not cum without permission.  After riding him for a bit, I could feel myself getting close again.  While I wanted him to pound me from behind, he did not have the endurance.  Instead, I rode him to a mutual simultaneous orgasm.  Afterwards, he told me that it felt better than most times as the pleasurable feelings continued for him even after his orgasm.  That is rare he said as he gets too sensitive.  This time was different. 

About thirty minutes later, he went to pick our child up.  I was nice and gave him the rest of the weekend off from the cage.  It goes back on in the morning.

Argument FOR Male Chastity

His moodiness went away today.  You'd swear that he has the monthly visitor and not me. 

I have had a couple of people ask, why do women enjoy men in chastity?  I can't speak for others but as for me, I like the control of him.  I like knowing that he cannot get any sexual satisfaction without me.  Is it the power?  The control?  Both?  Probably.  I also like that other women really can't hope to get anywhere with my man.  What is he going to do?  Show them the cage and the ring on his finger.  Actually, I know of many "happily" married men and women who conveniently lose the ring and cheat.  Even my most religious friends do that.  While I trust my husband, I don't trust the outside world.  With a divorce rate of 50% for America and closer to 75% in California, why not take a little extra precaution?  As I have said before, the ring on your finger should really be a ring around his cock.  Face it, men are weak.  Many women are the ones who decide if there will be a rendezvous or not.  The cock cage answers all of that and enforces marriage vows with a chastity vow.  As an extra benefit the man is more attentive as well.  Where is the down side?  Trust but verify.  Love, honor and obey - not love, honor and betray.

Would love to hear your thoughts.  I know some feel it is barbaric and others want this to be based on trust but this really causes us and others like us to be more connected.  Where is the downside?  I don't see it.  Do you?

Men - share this with your woman. 

Lovey Dovey in Chastity & Kathy Griffin Topless

Why does it take two weeks of 24/7 chastity for my man to get all lovey dovey and attentive?  I finally have him the way I want and he has the nerve to ask if he can get out of the cage or do something sexual.  Why would I want him out so soon when he is finally behaving the way I like?  I teased him a little and said a firm 'no' to him.  Plus, I'm having my monthly visitor so he is just going to have to wait.

Work had him a little worked up tonight - seems a number of deals didn't close.  Anyhow, he needs to control his enthusiasm in work and not have high ups and downs.  Just like he needs to stay at this way of behaving for me. 

Surprise

I got a nice morning surprise from my husband.  As I was waking up, his fingers lightly caressed my legs leading up to my sex.  In no time, he had me wet.  I went and reached for his caged cock and grabbed the base jerking him off as much as the cage would allow.  He kept tickling my sex getting me hotter then pressing himself up against my back.  I could feel him pressing against me.  I started to orgasm having to muffle my desire to moan as the doors between the bedrooms was open.  The feeling was wonderful - I seemed to have denied myself this lovely feeling for unknown reasons lately.  While he wanted to start a second one for me, I could hear movement in the house and told him 'no'.  Lucky for us as our little one slinked her way into the room only a few minutes later.

I don't know why but his inability to orgasm brings out a greater desire in me to both have sex and tease him.  Hopefully, we will have more chances tonight.

Delight in a Caged Cock

I wonder if other women out there feel the same as I do - I love having my husband in the cock cage.  I just get more interested in sex and sexual things knowing that he is locked up.  This morning I played with him a little before work and when he got home I did the same thing.  Hopefully, we can get some alone time before one of us falls asleep tonight as I want him to at least rub me to a bit of satisfaction.

The question as always when I get him in the cage is when to let him out for a bit of fun.  The tease is just so erotic knowing that each day he gets better and better.  He shows more attention, reacts more to my touch and is so much more agreeable. 

Weaker of the Species

I put him back in the cage today.  I had hoped to have some fun with him at lunch but life got in the way and totally ruined the mood.  I had teased him a lot this morning with the promise of more at lunch but it just didn't happen.  Now he is locked up until the mood strikes me again.  I am interested, don't get me wrong but I can't just turn it on and off like a guy.  I also didn't like leaving him out of the cage where he is away from me most of the days and sometimes has to do quick trips around the area that can keep him away until 9 or 10pm with little to no notice.

An online friend that blogs under Femdom Fiancee was having a worse problem with her sub - he was telling her that because of his job, he couldn't wear it during the daytime.  Then she caught him masturbating which is a big violation of their contract.  Anyhow, he is locked up now as well.

That is the thing with most men - when you give them the fantasy that they want of a strong woman, they try to push it.  Why can't they just accept that they got their wishes and enjoy it and live with the parts that might be a challenge?  It shows how men may be physically stronger but they are the weaker of the species.

By the way, these pictures are from the wordpress blog, naked men happy women.  Very hot blog.

A Whole Week in Review

I apologize for taking the whole week off from posting.  In truth, I was tired of posting.  With my husband very busy with work, I got lazy on keeping this fresh.

So let's go back to last Saturday and our night alone.  First off, we went with friends to see another friend perform on stage.  That went until 10pm.  Then we went out to a very dinner.  I would get into everything but all of the people we were with are pretty famous so I don't think it is a good thing to talk in specifics.  Anyhow, we finally got back to the room around 1am.  We were both exhausted and literally passed out. 

The next morning, I started teasing his cock.  I would take him to the edge and stop.  I would take him closer and stop again.  I think on the third time, he tensed but didn't say he was cumming - but he did.  When I told him what happened, he said it wasn't possible as he clenched and didn't feel an orgasm.  When I showed him the mess all over my hand and his body, he was surprised.  I'm not sure if that was sincere or not. 

Men, tell me, can you orgasm and not feel it?  Could you be fighting it so much that you don't feel the actual spilling of your seed?

As I was having a heavy visit from my monthly visitor, that was okay with me.  We got ready and spent some time out and about before meeting our friends who had kept our daughter over night.  We had a nice late breakfast, walked around on an absolutely beautiful day and then hit the road to return home.

Over the course of the week, there were a lot of distractions that were not very sexual.  The people at his old job were all fired - even the one whose family owned a good chunk of the business.  Can you imagine being so bad that you get kicked out of your own company?  I was told that the company is going to fail at some point and the only way to satisfy the creditors was to get rid of the management.    This is good for my husband as his departure last year came with whispers that he did something wrong or was incompetent.  Given that his new employer is very strong and will take business from the old company, the whisperers are realizing that what they were told were lies.

In general, this awful economy seems to be getting the better of some of the bad people.  Sadly, many good people are getting hurt first as the ones in power try to keep their positions for as long as possible.  It's the same way in government but that isn't for this blog.

I have been teasing him to the edge quite a bit on Friday and today.  He seems very horny.  I am too.  I really haven't gotten much satisfaction lately and need it.  Hopefully, we will get good chances this week.  As our child has a friend over this weekend, it has been tough to do anything even at night.  We might have time alone tomorrow but that is to be seen.

As for the pictures I owe you here, that early orgasm last Sunday meant no pictures.  I'm thinking either tomorrow or Tuesday will be my next chance for that.  One way or the other, I will post pictures this week.

What else?  I'm having him do the dishes more.  Massage me when we watch television or go out to eat.  I've let him out of the cage more but that means that I need to check and get him hard to make sure he hasn't masturbated.  So far, he seems okay although I am putting him back in tomorrow.

Phase 3 of His Diet

Art by Robert Mapplethorpe

Well, he started Phase 3 of his diet (Phase 1 was prep while Phase 2 was the hCG diet).  Phase 3 is where he spends the next three weeks holding his weight between 185 and 189 pounds.  No starches or sugars. Vegetables with a low glycemic index.  This is because with this diet you have to reset your internal chemistry and metabolism after a six week period of such rapid weight loss.  He did very well losing 25 pounds in six weeks.  His calorie intake will move up from the 500 calorie level to closer to 1,500. 

During this period, he will need to begin working on building lean muscle.  This means some mild aerobics and weight training.  The trick is to do it with lower weights but until muscle fatigue occurs.  Lots of situps and crunches.   He will be getting measured tonight - biceps, waist, thighs, chest, etc.  I will have him set-up a side page on his blog where those who are interested can monitor his progress.  Ideally, his chest should be 10" more than the waist.   By adding the muscle, his body fat level will go down.  I'm not sure if the weight drops but his waist size should tighten.  The last phase will also be for three weeks.  After that, he should be all set to return to a normal diet although one where most of the sugars are limited.  This is part of many longeivity diets - processed sugars are just awful for us.  It means more fiber, fruit and vegetables along with lean protein.

Sometime this week, I hope to get him alone at the house to take pictures with the feet and who knows what.  Hopefully, it will be a return to more of the sexier posts.  As for me, I cut my diet cycle down to 30 days - I was struggling with the lower calories.  I believe that I am going to need to do a number of cycles to get to where I hope to have him by mid-May. 

He remains in the cage as there has really been no chance or need to have him out.

Art by Lilith

In Like a Lamb

I know I haven't posted all week.  My apologies.  The truth is that I haven't had much going on.  I fell off the diet truck mid-week and I've been trying to get back on it.  In general, haven't been feeling the greatest suffering from headaches yesterday and today.  My husband is back in lock up (or is it lock down).  He has fun coming but with his travel and the way I have felt, there really was no opportunity or need for him to be out of it.

I think he has lost about as much weight as I want.  He needs to start working on building up the muscles now.  I will have him take a picture and post it either tonight or tomorrow so you can see what I mean.  He still have a little on his tummy but I don't want him getting all saggy.  He needs to start getting the muscles bigger so that won't happen.

So on the sex front, not a lot.  Sorry as I know that is what most of you are interested in.  Maybe this weekend.  We will have to see.

Lost Monday

From the 2009 Seattle Erotic Art Fest

His work got in the way of a fabulous blow job leading to him cumming on my feet today.  It seems a customer came in at Noon that kept him until 1:30pm.   I really want to do this picture during the day time when the light is good and our little one isn't around. 

I don't know if you noticed his weight but it went up one pound last night even though he ate only an apple, some fish and steamed spinach yesterday.  That would normally lose at least a pound.  For the week, he lost the lowest amount to date despite only one meal a day for three days!  This shows how drinking effects your weight for days.  He should start seeing improvement either tomorrow or Wednesday but he essentially lost the better part of a week for about 5 ounces of tequila and a shot of whiskey.  The sugars totally fuck up the diet. 

He made moves to get me interested last night which I had to tell him to read a book to.  I was feeling off a bit and tired.  As you all know, I should be the one making the initial move on him.  Maybe some day he will figure it out.

Happy Valentine's Day

I wanted to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day.  I think the day has been overcommercialized.  If we are doing it right, every day is Valentine's Day.  As I know a number of people who read this have unique interests, try slowly exposing your partner to this if you have not.  For those who dream of it but are single, go to a munch or in some other way try and meet like minded people.  Use this as a day to create more emotional harmony.

Looking Back

Someone asked a good question of me the other day.  Where are we going with this FemDom thing.  In truth, I don't think of it as FemDom first.  I just see things as I control what goes on inside the house.  My husband is my husband and he is naive in some ways and needs my guidance on certain things.  I also know he is probably kinkier than me.  This is part of the reason that the cage is such a good thing.  Not that he would do anything but with it on, I don't need to wonder what is going on when he is away for a long time for work or with friends. 

So where is this going?  First, I think it is going toward a stronger marriage.  Those who have read it all year know of some of the challenges we have had to deal with.  I think we are the strongest of anytime in our marriage.  We are both hornier toward each other too.  Maybe that is because we are both settling in to roles that we are both more comfortable with.  Second, we are cleaning up our eating act to get more fit.  I want both of us to be smoking hot for our ages.  I won't spend hours in the gym but we will get really fit.  Also, we are exploring and trying new things.  What that means exactly will be proven out in time.  If you think about it, my controls with him have increased - he is now on a diet that I run; he is wearing clothes that I have more of a say in; around the house he is taking my lead more.  As for me, I am less interested in the material things although I would love an iPad.

Well, I'm sure there is more but these are the big pieces without talking about something specific like we will use this sex toy or do this sex thing.  Those things will just evolve as we grow as a couple open to more exploration of our interests and marriage.  Along these lines, I know so many of you want what we have.  I am serious when I say to share this blog with your other half.  Remember, I didn't start wanting to do all these things.  My Catholic raising led me to think that these things should be suppressed.  As I went into things a little further and further, I gained confidence and found that this was something I wanted that my husband craved too.  Be brave and somehow start the conversations.  Be slow in bringing it up.  Just talk about the adventures of us as well as a few others on here who blog like this.  Life is short - make yourself happy.

Anniversary and Updates

What a busy girl!

My husband asked me what I want for our anniversary.  I told him an iPad.  I'd like a bigger trip or maybe a spa retreat where a plastic surgeon does an overhaul on me but that will need to wait for the diet to be closer to done and more money in the bank account.  We can't go out for much of a special dinner given our diets.  With the animals, a trip is tough too. 

As for what to give him, I told him that I was thinking of giving him a blow job a day for a week.  I wonder if he could handle it after the way things have been.  Now if I give him the blow jobs, I think I need to let him cum.  Since I won't be swallowing, maybe he should?  Any thoughts you may have are appreciated.  This is only an early thought.

Got my toenails done today so I am ready-ready for the toe shots.  I will do those next week if I can.  That might include a cage though - we will see.  Having just finished with my monthly visitor, my interest in sex is pretty high.

On the diet front, I'm down 5 pounds in 5 days.  I was thinking about posting it but then decided not to as I am not the one on total display like my husband.  You can see his weight loss beginning to make a difference - his face definitely shows it. 

For this video choice, here is one I like.  Do you know Gus Gus?  This was a song they did last year that I just heard.  Doubtful that anyone in the U.S. knows it as it is very European.  I'm glad that the vocalist is back.

Men Need to be Locked Up

Seeing and reading everything that I do in life, I think so many problems could be solved if all men were in chastity cages.  Men can go ahead and continuing with thinking that they are ruling the world but if they are bad, then they are going to be locked up for a long time.  When you see so many of the awful things going on with corrupt politicians who cheat their people, you have to know that they act the same way in their personal life.  Look at Egypt, Murbarek is an old man who was known to enjoy all sorts of women outside of his marriage.  Women are more likely to build and nurture while men seem to like seeing things explode whether it is an orgasm or a gun. 

So men reading this, tell your girlfriend or wife that you want to ensure that you are giving them your 100% attention sexually.  No cheating, no masturbating, no anything without them.  Lock it up and give them the key.  The more powerful the man, the more he needs this. I think it is much more interesting when a strong man gives himself up.  The wimpy ones are just boring.  I don't see why a strong woman would want a wet noodle of a man.

Now for men eating their orgasms - I still don't fully get it so I guess I may need to try it for a while to see if there is a reason for it.  I'm sure he will be up for it until the minute he has to do it.  Then it will be like the past where he has this 'who me' look on his face.  We will see.  The time is soon as I am in the mood for some fun.

Not my best post, my apologies.  In starting my diet today, now I am the one having headaches.  He seems fine now that he is on the right mix of hcg.  Also, he is eating a little more which will slow the weight loss but help him feel stronger.

A Quiet Day

For the first day in almost two weeks, I had it to myself.  I was bad and did almost nothing watching television way too much.  Our child was at school and my husband was at work.  I had wanted him to get home for lunch but he couldn't.  I told him that he will need to get home for lunch this week as I need him for a few things that need attention.  I won't say what that attention is but you and he can guess.  Anyway, you will find out soon enough. Woman will know that as the monthly visitor leaves, there is an increased interest in all sorts of things.

Since he wasn't feeling too good the last few days on the diet and I am getting started on it this week, I read everything again.  I think I figured out some of his problem.  He was taking the weight loss hCG and the maintanence pills for after.  I guess that means that he was getting extra this first week.  Still, he got a good start.  He was so tired tonight so I gave him a B-12 shot and let him help our child finish homework.  I think that they are almost done.  Both wanted to see "Chuck" tonight but it is looking a bit late.  Maybe tomorrow.

That goes for him too.  Maybe tomorrow. 

Things to Do...

Well, my diet is starting in a serious way in 48 hours.  Hubby has been doing his and the results are obvious already.  He is also horny again after only a few days and has asked twice if I'd let him out for a little loose time this weekend.  Honestly, he is pushing it too much.  I want him to be focused on losing the weight for now and not thinking about that thing between his legs.  I think as he loses weight, his libido is going up.  It probably doesn't help that I tease him a little all the time.

I was looking at my feet today and remembered that I owe you new pictures.  They are 100% back to sexy.   My feet on his caged cock is an easy picture.  I will probably do that Monday if he stops by for lunch.  As for letting him cum on my toes and cleaning it up by tongue bath, I think we should wait on that - don't you?  I'm happy to hear the arguments both sides on here.  I'm willing to reconsider if there is a good reason to.

Oh, we have an anniversary in about three weeks.  I think he should wait for that and then, if he makes me feel special, maybe I would let him out.  Part of me thinks that I should make him wait until he loses all the weight.  Isn't that what the strap-ons are for?

Here is a rare video from a favorite group - Crazy P aka Crazy Penis.

Make love, Not porn

Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn

This woman is something.  I think she is in her fifties and only dates men in their twenties and is opening vocal.  This is not my typical post but I think you will all find her to be amazingly honest.  She is all about women taking power and opening honest discussions.

In a way, that is what I think I do here in my own little way.  She also is about taking action on ideas.

That link shows you a bit about her giving a presentation on her views.  There are many more videos out there but I wanted to point out someone strong women can look up to.

Monster Erupts

Before I start posting, I think I figured out a fun idea for the readers.  Click on the Youtube music below as you read.  Between myself and my husband, we know lots of music that you might not know.  We like very little mainstream music so hopefully you will here something that you like.  It will also be music to read to.  Very civilised, no?  An upside, as he told me, is that you can stumble across our blogs because of the music.  In that way, you can share the concept with your women.  You were exploring music and found Female Led Relationships.  What a bonus!

Just a quick post.  I don't know if you saw my husband's side of the blog but I let him have an orgasm before he needed to go back in the cage.  He seemed so desperate and he has been very good to me and my child and I thought I would give him a reward.  It didn't take much at all.  I think maybe a minute and he was exploding.  It was huge.   All over his stomach and a shot to the chest.  Just a mess.  My hands were clean as he only needed two fingers and sixty seconds to get him to lose it.  Given that he has been so good and that I had a sick kid in the next room, I didn't think consuming it was needed this morning.

For the rest of the day, I was dealing with a sick kid.  Doctors office, the hospital and five hours later, we were home.  She has a fever that won't quit despite medicine.  It's under control but as a mother, you never want that for your baby.

Okay, here is today's music.  My husband found it so don't blame me.  It is very silly by the lead singer of B-52s and it is called "Monster".  I don't like it but he thought it works so here you go...

Remember Wax Play and a Homemade Torture Rack

So today we went to a Ba't Mitzvah and then had a few people over afterwards.  Not much sexy to that other than one man rubbing his clearly dominant girlfriends feet the whole time and my guy burning a CD or five for my friends to take home with them.  Everyone was still dressed up except for my guy who was wearing silky track pants and a loose sweat shirt.

While I am waiting to do something post-worthy, I might as well share with you something we did when we were dating quite a long time ago:

One time he made me one of those medieval stretchers - the ones where they would pull peoples limbs apart.  Seeing how he made it, it was so easy.  First, his feet were in ankle cuffs attached to an O-hook at one end of the room on the floor.  The hands were in wrist cuffs that were attached to a broom handle through holes drilled in them (broom handle, not his wrists).  He made it so that he could clutch the pole so that I didn't by mistake hurt his wrists.  The broom handle was attached to something that clicks tighter and tighter that was attached to another hook on the other side of the room.  With the flip of a little switch, it would release all tension.  With a simple click, it would tighten.  I think it is one of those things that tighten covers on boats.

Once I had him completely stretched, I teased him for a while getting him super horny and hard.  I think I might have sat on his cock for a little bit.  As it was a hard wood floor, this was not the best position to use him in that way (too hard on my knees).  I got off and teased him some more.  If he was able to move his hips, I would click it tighter until he just couldn't move.  Then I got out a candle and started dripping wax all over his sex.  A few times the wax was too hot and it burned him.  Those times there was a little movement but almost none considering what I just did.  I did this until his cock and balls were 100% covered in wax.  While doing this, I dripped it up and down his stomach to his nipples.  Where he was dealing with the very hot wax at the start, after a while, he was so covered in wax, he was much calmer although his cock stayed hard.

At this point, his joints in his shoulders started to hurt badly.  I suppose today I would keep him in it for a while to see if he could get his mind around the pain.  Then, it seemed like 30 minutes stretched was enough.  We took off the wax and found that he was ultra-sensitive for everything that followed.

I remember his mother visiting the house and wondering why the rings were screwed into the floor.  As we had just bought the house a few months earlier, we said that we had no idea and that they had probably been there when we bought the house and then asked her what she thought they were for.  She had no idea.

I will write a few more of these on days where nothing is going on.  I hope you like them.  This is one I might need to do again.  Next time, I think it is a backyard thing, don't you?

Also, I'm looking around the internet and there are just no good pictures of a hard male cock covered in wax or a man being stretched while naked.  The combination totally doesn't exist.  Anyhow, another thing I have to add to my to do list.

Here is one of my favorite songs by Roisin Murphy when she was still in Moloko:

Friday & a Fantasy

All that happened today was that I teased him a little bit.  Last night he was begging me for a little teasing.  As I wasn't feeling good, I told him 'no' firmly and told him to go to sleep.  I suppose at 20 days he is getting a bit horny.  As that isn't much of a post, I will share a fun fantasy of mine...

The idea of two straight men in a quirky competition to see who can avoid going soft or having an orgasm.  To start, they already need to be very horny.  The fantasy part to me is that they have to handle each others' cocks instead of their own.  That means that you don't want the other person to go soft or orgasm.  If they do, the loser is the one who let the other person fall or orgasm.  The punishment would need to be something that neither wants at all.  Not sure what that would be but I'd think of something good.

Katy Perry (?) damonchernavsky.com

So now they need to keep each other up.  Maybe I add a blindfold so that they can do it easier or can't use their vision to tell when the other one is close to orgasm.  Now if one started to orgasm, I think the other would let go and a ruined orgasm would follow.  There is the reward for winning.

I think the way they would keep each other hard is by masturbating, right?  Isn't that what men like?  What if the competition goes a while and masturbating isn't enough to keep the cock hard?  Does the possible loser take stronger measures like sucking or licking the cock? 

I told this to a sub online.  He thought that this was emasculating.  Maybe it is.  Maybe this is the kind of fantasy a Female Dominant likes for just that reason.  I'm not sure as I haven't analyzed myself.

If there is a more adventurous couple out there that tries this, please email me or post your comments here.  I'd love to know what happens in real life.

Now that I know we can put video in here, here is one by one of my favorite female singers - Grace Jones, "Corporate Cannibal""