Blogging Break Over

Sorry for dropping off for the last two weeks.  I didn't real have much to post about.  I think I also needed a break from posting all the time - I felt the blog getting flat.  Hopefully, I can rekindle the past energy.

Well, to remind you all, our child seems to have her ears up about us doing anything.  This put a kind, and not the good kind, into our play.  I finally got her to sleep while my husband was awake last night.  After he stroked me to a nice little orgasm, I took over on him and kept edging him while reminding him to be super quiet.  I would tease him to the edge over and over.  After one tease, just as I stopped, he orgasmed.  How rude to ruin my fun!  Afterwards, while he was happy for the release, he said it wasn't as fulfilling because I had stopped stroking and he was fighting it off.  Nevertheless, he came a lot so I don't know how much it could have ruined.  Anyhow, I will try again tonight and see if I he can last a little longer while in me. 

I'm going out of town for a few days with our child and he is staying behind to watch the animals and work. 

What else?  He did a good job on his diet but needs to start with some muscle build up.  I will get some pics on here for you in the next week.  I know that I owe all sorts of pictures on here.  I will try and do them as soon as life allows it.

Again, sorry for my absence.

Argument FOR Male Chastity

His moodiness went away today.  You'd swear that he has the monthly visitor and not me. 

I have had a couple of people ask, why do women enjoy men in chastity?  I can't speak for others but as for me, I like the control of him.  I like knowing that he cannot get any sexual satisfaction without me.  Is it the power?  The control?  Both?  Probably.  I also like that other women really can't hope to get anywhere with my man.  What is he going to do?  Show them the cage and the ring on his finger.  Actually, I know of many "happily" married men and women who conveniently lose the ring and cheat.  Even my most religious friends do that.  While I trust my husband, I don't trust the outside world.  With a divorce rate of 50% for America and closer to 75% in California, why not take a little extra precaution?  As I have said before, the ring on your finger should really be a ring around his cock.  Face it, men are weak.  Many women are the ones who decide if there will be a rendezvous or not.  The cock cage answers all of that and enforces marriage vows with a chastity vow.  As an extra benefit the man is more attentive as well.  Where is the down side?  Trust but verify.  Love, honor and obey - not love, honor and betray.

Would love to hear your thoughts.  I know some feel it is barbaric and others want this to be based on trust but this really causes us and others like us to be more connected.  Where is the downside?  I don't see it.  Do you?

Men - share this with your woman. 

Karma

Today I gave him a morning treat - a handjob before work.  He has been so good lately on a whole bunch of things that I wanted to give it to him.  If we had more time, I might have been more elaborate but I knew he had to get to work and I just felt like giving him a nice send off on the day.  I think most women in charge should realize that sometimes we need to change things up and do something for our men.  It can't always be one way.  I know most men like that but still I think mixing things up is good too.

This should be a fun week - we have a few events to go to this week related to fashion and runways.  I'll see if there are any pictures worth sharing.  I know I owe you naughty ones but that will happen when it happens. 

Oh, remember that asshole boss my husband had many months ago?  Not only did he lose his job and over a million dollars in stock because the company is worth nothing but he is having to sell his house, move out of town and take his kids out of private school.  Pretty amazing for someone who was making over $400,000 a year for a long time.  Talk about wasting a good thing.  I feel bad for his kids but not him.  He brought pain, anguish and suffering to an awful lot of people.  Maybe this is one of the few times where karma kicked in.  It seems like the bad people and the wealthy always have things work out for them while the rest of us scratch around.  Some fairness is nice to see. 

Oscars, eBook and Weight Loss

With the departure of my elder daughter and her family early afternoon, I settled in to watch the Oscars.  It didn't seem like there were many upsets except maybe the foreign film with Javier Bardem in it. 

I was looking for eBooks on my iPad and stumbled across this.  Remember my post about that interesting woman, Cindy Gallop?  She released a book that is top of the charts.  Can I accidentally pick them or what?  Anyhow, we should all support strong woman.  The book is only $2.99 and looks important for anyone with a child.

On the homefront, my husband had been very good for two days getting by on only an apple and a dinner each day.  Today he was going to weaken and asked for lunch around 2pm.  I told him that he would have to hold on for an early dinner at 5:30pm.  He should be seeing the affect of the drinking Thursday night today and tomorrow.  We will see if it causes his weight to go back up after good days from Friday to Sunday.  I might be wrong but the drinking should cause his weight to stay the same or go up over the next few days if he doesn't stay deprived.  On that front, he is definitely showing signs of a higher libido.  Let's see what we can do with that this week. 

As for me on the diet, I cheated but with a grapefruit on Saturday.  We have so many in our yard.

That's it for tonight.  I'll post more tomorrow - maybe even the long delayed but often thought about foot pics.

Day 6 of 7

Well, he fell asleep before I got to bed last night again.  As such, he lost the chance on Day 6.  Today is his last chance for a while although I do need to do the foot shot for the blog.

Oh, I met someone online who has been following the blog and sending ideas now and then for a while.  I'm all excited as he has offered to make or help my husband make some fun toys for use on my husband.  One is a board that we would strap him down to so that he can't move an inch when I'm tormenting him.  I'll add a better picture of that later today.  The one you need for our play would keep his legs spread - this one that is sold online doesn't do that.  There were other things like a ball crusher, cock stretcher and more.  The one we talked about that I hope we can figure out is one where he is strapped down but if he struggles, it either pinches his nipples more tightly or squeezes his balls or sticks something up his ass.  We are noodling that while my husband works to making his better cock trap a reality.  Hopefully, if any of this works, I can make this my job - I would love to help other women do what I am doing - and make money from it. 

Days 4 and 5 of 7

As you could read from his post, he got teased but no action those two days.  On Sunday, everyone was exhausted from a long day of driving and going out and about.  Monday, I just felt off from the diet and had to take a pass until the evening.  When I got to bed, he was sound asleep so that opportunity was lost by him.  He still has Tuesday and Wednesday left before lock-up so he might get a bit more.  I know I promised him an orgasm a day but I'm not going to wake him up to do it for him.  If he is asleep and can't wait, then the opportunity is lost.

Among the things I need to do is the foot orgasm as I promised a number of people that shot for the blog.  I will see if that can be a midday photo shoot during one of his lunch breaks. 

Day 3 of his 7 days of gift

On night #2 of his seven nights of fun, he fell asleep before I could come to bed.  As such, he lost his chance.  The next day, we actually had some alone time.  I wasn't in the mood for sex but needed a massage.  He gave me a great one cracking my back and loosening my spine better than anyone  has done in a long time - even professionals.  I rewarded him with a tease and orgasm by hand.  He came a huge mess.  No, I didn't make him recycle it - I know you want me too - but we were both relaxed and just fell asleep until the idiot dogs started barking.  He has four more days of this and no cage.

Have a full day so I'll try and post more tonight.

Wednesday night

An odd way to pogo.

I see that he wrote about the early anniversary gift last night.  That was quite thoughtful of him.  The funny thing is that when we were getting ready for bed, he asked if he could take off the cage.  I told him politely, 'no', and that I wanted him to keep it on until tomorrow night so that he could take it off for our anniversary.  I then sent him off to check on our child. 

Isn't it funny what men will do to get a little action or think that they can get something?  They are so conniving.  Well, today is our anniversary.  Let's see what is in store for him.  As tomorrow is a half day followed by a three-day weekend, it will be much easier to monitor his uncaged actions. 

Anniversary on the 17th

I think I told all of you that I promised him a blowjob a day for our anniversary week.  I don't think I promised that I would swallow or let him cum although after three weeks of denial, I think he is entitled to some relief.  I know a few people offered ideas but the time is upon us so I would like to hear your thoughts.  For example, many people want to see him orgasm on my feet and clean it up.  I suppose I could give him a blow job and then have him cum on my toes.  That works, right?  Also, should I blow him but stop short of orgasm?  You will see in the poll the question on swallowing.  Anyhow, please share your thoughts and ideas.  You can post here, IM me at wifekeyholder on Yahoo most days or send me an email at khwife@gmail.com.

Thanks.

Diet and Taking More Control

Sorry to have been quiet for a few days.  Not a lot going on in advance of Valentine's Day and our anniversary a few days later.  Main thing has been getting these diets off the ground.  While I started a week after him, I am only a few pounds behind him in weight loss.  I talked things over with him this morning and we agreed that his ideal weight should be 175 pounds.  That means it will be closer to 40 pounds that he is losing.  Once that is done, we will get into firming our bodies and getting into the best shape possible.  I also had a friend who is a doctor look at him last night and I'm thinking that he will have a few small procedures to keep wrinkles or saggy skin on his face tight.  I've enjoyed controlling his diet and expect to keep it that way in the future.   Some of this is because I am making these decisions.  Other parts are for him to be in fighting shape in his new job so that he can rise way above the people who got rid of him a few months ago.  They are all losing their jobs and looking awful so I think the best thing we can do is project happiness, fitness and strength while they are a bunch of overweight and bloated greedy a**holes set to receive what they deserve after years of selfishness.

On nicer things, if I touch him he is in heaven.   It can be as simple as caressing his stomach or kissing him.  I think that means that he is about where I wanted him going into this special week for us.  I have at least one day totally alone with him where we will be busy if you know what I mean.  For you, this means a few pictures too finally.  I really apologize for the delay on this but there have been no good chances to do what I have promised.

For the rest of today - Grammy red carpet! 

Here is a song I like that is popular in the Middle East by Natasha Atlas.  I found her on the Buddha Bar CDs.  This song is telling people to stop the fighting.  Hopefully, a new day is happening in the Middle East. 

Looking Back

Someone asked a good question of me the other day.  Where are we going with this FemDom thing.  In truth, I don't think of it as FemDom first.  I just see things as I control what goes on inside the house.  My husband is my husband and he is naive in some ways and needs my guidance on certain things.  I also know he is probably kinkier than me.  This is part of the reason that the cage is such a good thing.  Not that he would do anything but with it on, I don't need to wonder what is going on when he is away for a long time for work or with friends. 

So where is this going?  First, I think it is going toward a stronger marriage.  Those who have read it all year know of some of the challenges we have had to deal with.  I think we are the strongest of anytime in our marriage.  We are both hornier toward each other too.  Maybe that is because we are both settling in to roles that we are both more comfortable with.  Second, we are cleaning up our eating act to get more fit.  I want both of us to be smoking hot for our ages.  I won't spend hours in the gym but we will get really fit.  Also, we are exploring and trying new things.  What that means exactly will be proven out in time.  If you think about it, my controls with him have increased - he is now on a diet that I run; he is wearing clothes that I have more of a say in; around the house he is taking my lead more.  As for me, I am less interested in the material things although I would love an iPad.

Well, I'm sure there is more but these are the big pieces without talking about something specific like we will use this sex toy or do this sex thing.  Those things will just evolve as we grow as a couple open to more exploration of our interests and marriage.  Along these lines, I know so many of you want what we have.  I am serious when I say to share this blog with your other half.  Remember, I didn't start wanting to do all these things.  My Catholic raising led me to think that these things should be suppressed.  As I went into things a little further and further, I gained confidence and found that this was something I wanted that my husband craved too.  Be brave and somehow start the conversations.  Be slow in bringing it up.  Just talk about the adventures of us as well as a few others on here who blog like this.  Life is short - make yourself happy.

Thank You!

I don't know how to thank you enough for your interest and desire to follow our evolving FemDom Marriage.  I have learned from many of the ideas and suggestions given by those with more experiences or ideas that I would have never thought of or tried without your help.  In trying to think of a way to thank you and give you my own Valentine, I am thinking more pictures is a start.  Another way is to continue trying things new that you will find interesting.  I would do that anyway but the support system you provide is helpful.

On a personal note, I had some hair extensions that a friend and hair dresser gave me.  She put them in today.  Hopefully, you will see bits of it in future pictures.  The diet continues.  I started a week after my husband and will probably be on the diet for about four months.  For him, I think he can get where he needs to in half that time.  Of course, you will be seeing more pictures of him than me so you can judge for yourself soon enough.  Once the weight is off, the next part is increasing each of our tone.  That will mean a different challenge in lifting weights, stair machines and situps to name a few of the exercises.

Hopefully, we will have some quality alone time soon.  I know I need it.  Today he had a little time but I wasn't here.  Soon enough, I will get him to work.

Okay, here is today's music - Sade's "No Ordinary Love".  She is one of my favorites and the song speaks to the idea of all of our interests here:

A Watersport Remembered

Since people liked yesterday's post and since almost nothing happened today, I will share another experience with you here.   The quick version on today is that he is horny, wants attention and I squeezed his tit very hard.  Not much of a day.

Is Apple sponsoring these?

Going back over ten years, one time I was trying to get him to be a big baby to me.  I kept him in a diaper.  I wanted to pamper him and put powder on him.  The thing was that he just couldn't do it and when he finally did, it was WAY too much for the diaper.  So this wasn't going to work.

Next I tried tying him up and playing with him as his bladder filled from a lot of liquid he had.  Eventually, he was begging to pee.  So I retied his hands behind him and led him to the bathroom.  I would be his hands.  So as he tried to relax to go, I did some gentle stroking.  I stood behind him waiting in fascination to see him pee as if it were my cock.  I got excited doing this.  I kept telling him to go but he couldn't.  I kept stroking him too.  He said that he couldn't go if I was doing that.  Now if I had to go and I was getting pleasure, I would just concentrate and experience both.   He couldn't so I gave him maybe thirty seconds without touches.  Still nothing.  So I started again.  He seemed to be in agony but his body told me it was a good agony.  I mean if it really hurt, wouldn't his cock go soft?  Anyhow, I finally laid him down in the very cold tub and positioned his butt higher so that as he went, whenever that was, he would pee all over himself.  I didn't want a mess in the whole bathroom.  So I did this for a little longer and he was squirming bad.  I was so fascinated to see what would happen.  Eventually, I slowed the strokes and just held his cock and balls.  Eventually a spurt of pee came out but not that much.  The idea of peeing on himself was hard on him too as he had never done any of this, my innocent little boy.

Well, I started running the water for him and that seemed to help.  He started a trickle of pee before he let go and shot all over his body including his face.  Such a hot scene that I never did again with him.  I think it was because I got pregnant not long after that and all of these games stopped for almost 10 years.  Maybe it was because I thought a mother shouldn't do these things.  I'm not sure.  In any event, this is something I have been opening up to over the years.  Maybe now is when I let the inner me out before I'm too old to try all these things.

Okay, that turned into a psychiatrist's couch post that I could NEVER say to him.  Well, thank you for your interest and those who chat with me on these things.  You are like my faceless friends where I can say things I could never say to most of the friends I currently have. 

I'm curious - do you like me posting music at the bottom of posts? I like electronica and techno.  This isn't one of my favorite songs but I think a number of you will enjoy the voyeurism of the video.

Mishegoss

I just read my husband's post.  For the record, I am dictating this to him for publishing.  It is so nice to have a fast typing husband who can do this for me.  Anyway, the thing I want to say is that I want attention as much or more than him but I am not going to do a rush job.  When he is thinking work, he attentions are just not as strong as they need to be and I do not want to start something that he can't finish for a number of reasons including work.  I do not want to be competing with the clock or a cell phone call.  I want him to be all mine and I want his attentions all on me.  That seems fair, no?  Also, he has no business asking to be let out of the cage for any reason.  I will let him out when I want to. 

Right now,  I am focused on getting our child to not come into our bedroom just now.  I have no idea how long that will take but that will help quite a bit.  He may find he has a few sleepy days once we solve this problem. 

As for my anniversary present, I want an iPad but money is probably not there for it as he keeps repeating.  So what shall we do?  Looking it up in the guides, the tenth year used to be tin or aluminum.  He'd better not do that - unless of course it is the iPad - that is aluminum, yes?  The modern version is diamonds.  That is nice too but not likely given the difficulty of last year.

On other things, I have all of these guys online who want me to Domme them or bring them into my home or have a fling that my husband doesn't know about.  What to say about all of this?  First, if you have read my blog, a fling is not my thing.  Where is the pleasure for me in Domming a bunch of married guys who won't tell their wife's what they want?  That flies in the face of what I say everyday.  For the ladies reading this who have uncaged husband's, this is a great reminder that men with go to many lengths to live out their fantasies but not expose themself to you for fear of ridicule.  Here is how to solve that.  Play with their cock.  Get them good and excited.  Then start asking them for their deep, dark fantasies.  Probe deep.  Don't be satisfied with an answer that they think you will find okay.  Ask questions.  If they hold back, slow the play.  If they give good answers, keep playing.  You might just get the truth.

Anyhow for all of these cyberguys, some are very interesting to talk to who I learn a lot from - others are a challenge and wear me out.   When you approach someone with as much online content as me - read it.  Don't waste our time with what you want.  Think about who you are approaching and try to cater to them - not you.

Sexual Power for Women

I am reading "Sexual Power for Women" by Georgeann Cross thanks to a generous and kind reader of this blog.  What makes it interesting to most women is that it explains male behavior and why controlling their sex is so important.  First, if you control their cock whether it be using a cock cage or however you do it, you keep the relationship more exciting.  Where the woman controls things keeps the boredom away.  It helps to open up doors that you might not have known ever existed.  With statistics where something like 50% of all couples divorce and even more stray, this is a great way to insure that you stay connected with a spark in the relationship.

As she says, men are "wired to turn on to the techniques of female domination; they can’t help that...And the power of these techniques to excite is far greater than the tendency of monogamy to bore. If your man can’t have you whenever he wants, if he gets to experience that yummy little thrill only on your terms, boredom never sets in. He remains always a bit insecure, always eager to please you, always horny for you."

If he is caged, you can be sure that he is in a constant state of arousal - at least in his head.  This eliminates the boredom and keeps the spice there much longer than the average couple. 

What makes it even better is if you can tease your man with little things throughout the day.  The combination keeps them wired to make you happy as they continue to try and get you to allow them out of their chastity and into, well, you. 

She also talks about intimacy.  Early on, men want to share everything with you although they might edit some of the things they don't want you to know or fear will gross you out.  As you are together longer, that sharing of feelings goes away with the weight of daily things creating emotional distance.  What happens with many couples is a type of competition where at least the men feel the need to win the argument or whatever the conflict is - not good to happiness.

The control or chastity puts the man into a vulnerable position just as he was earlier in the relationship.  Secret feelings and emotions can be shared more openly.  Because of that greater openness, the love remains fresh and there is less of a chance for walls to build or libidos to stray.

Those are only a couple of points in the book that I wanted to mention.  I will bring up more later.  Men who read this but are afraid to share those feelings with their wives or significant others should think hard about being more open.  If your partner isn't open to things, show her this post.  The chastity isn't just about being kinky but it is a way to create more intimacy.  If she really loves you, she should be flattered by the openness.  If not, you have deeper problems and probably need a marriage counselor pronto.

These are just my thoughts.  I know everyone won't agree but this has really strengthened our relationship.  Also, here is one foot pic for those of you looking for them.  More tomorrow.

Dinner Party Idea

Another fun fantasy of mine is to have a dinner party where all the women are dressed up and the men, well, they are wearing very little.  My husband could be in the kitchen with only a smock.  Another could be the waiter wearing only the bowtie.  If it is three couples, the third gives foot rubs as we chat.  How fun would that be? 

I think it would have to start with a cocktail and chat hour.  Hors d'eouvres served.  Champagne flowing.  The men serving us.  My husband slaving away in the kitchen.  After a bit of that, he brings out the plates and serves us.  It should probably be multiple courses of small portions.  A different wine for each dish.  After that, the women retire to lounge while the men clean up.  We are served desert and coffee. 

At this point, it seems like a good time for some performance art.  What to have them do?  Sing and dance?  No as men can't dance.  I'm not sure what we would do then.  Anyone have ideas?  Maybe the desert is served on them in the way Japanese men use a naked woman for sushi.   One of them could be shrink wrapped for sanitary reasons and we could place the different tastes all over him.  Looking at this picture though, a banana leaf cut up could do the same thing.   Have a few dipping sauces on there too - some whipped creme, melted caramel...maybe a fondue.  What a mess we'd make!


I will need to think about this one a little more.


PS: My husband thought of a fun Halloween Party - have the men go as the women and the women go as the men and do their best to stay in the character of their partner.  Doesn't that sound hilarious?

I Want More

You know, getting a little sex makes me want more.  Due to the holidays, that was one thing I wasn't getting either.  After Saturday, I want more but now I can't get it.  He is now working so he is away during the day.  Doing it alone is not the same.   As of tomorrow, our child is back at school and I want more.  We will see if he can come home for "lunch".   I think the thing we need to use is the strap-on but of him on me.  I think it is too soon to give him a second orgasm but the feeling of a cock is so mmm!  I know he would disagree with the too soon comment but that is why I am the one in charge.

Last night was interesting.  He had fixed the CB-6000 and put it back on.  He used a slightly smaller ring and struggled most of the night with the tighter size.  Finally around 4:30am, I got the key for him.  I find it amazing that just a little bit tighter caused him all sorts of problems and pain.   I've told him to write about it on his side of the blog.

That's it for now.  I know I owe you all some pictures.  We will do something soon.   As the strap on choice won, that is probably what will be done first.  Looking at the time to orgasm, I am sure that he is hoping that I don't listen to the poll.  We will see.

First of the Year

I'm sure more than a few of you are disappointed that I let my husband have an orgasm in the way men and women often do.  While it didn't surprise me, his endurance was pretty low.  I told him all along to hold off so he seemed to not have the more fulfilling of orgasms although I know he enjoyed the release. 

I still plan on using the strap on and the foot one.  I'm not going to discuss specifics - my husband's blog has enough of that for those who want to know.  I did do a bit of control with him as we did things though - no kisses, massages, etc.  That just seemed to make him even more desperate to do things. 

I had hoped to do more over the holiday break but life got in the way.  Given all of the hard work my husband has done today organizing the garage and storage area, I don't think his attentions will slip because I gave him a little attention to start the New Year.

Here is a question to you subs - if you get very little usage for month, is there anyway for you to last like someone who is getting more attention?  I'd be curious if anyone has developed that much self control. 

Worked Up Husband - What to Do?

Odd statue in Oxford, UK

You'll see in my husband's post tonight that he making himself worked up.  So you know, I'm horny too but I don't get all worked up like him.  Life gets in the way and sometimes you need to wait.  Maybe we will get a chance tomorrow for a few hours.  I told him that today.  And yes, he might have had a chance today if the hair coloring had been faster but she is my friend and does it for a special price for us.  I went back to the more orange and blonde hair color.  You all will get a chance to see it as soon as we are taking pictures of the next play time.  Is that tomorrow or the next day or next week?  No idea. 

So it makes three days in a row he thought he might get a little time.  With children and life, it is what it is.  Maybe if I told him he had to wait a few weeks, he would be getting less worked up.  Let's see how tomorrow goes.

He is all worked up.  What to do?  Wait is about all that he can do...and give me foot rubs.

This is another view of the statue

 PS: Is this statue funny or what?  Is that a wallet in his hand?

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