Happy Independence Day!

Just taking it easy today.  Not much to update - seems like everyone is busy with family as I will be in about a week.  

Those of you who are bored or have some time, drop me an email, instant message or a post.  I will be taking pictures next week so happy to try and get the ones you want.  The only request so far is for my husband to orgasm on my feet or shoes and clean it up by tongue.  Also, if there is something you think I should do with him before I leave, would like your thoughts.  

I hope you all are having wonderful holiday weekends.  

Ten Days Until...

In ten days, I go on a trip with our child to see my family for two weeks.  We got these tickets months ago for a great price.  My husband is staying behind to look after the animals, look for a job and because there is too much spanish speaking for his taste when I visit family.  He prefers to have this as his alone time for the year.  The third week we will be visiting other family about six hours from the house and we will see him for the part of that week that he can break away.  It probably won't be for more than a night as it is way too difficult to travel with the animals.

Two things come to mind: 1) What to do with him for the next ten days? and 2) Do I keep him in a cage for the three weeks apart?  The last one is easy - yes, he will be caged.  The first one is harder.  I know he is horny and I am struggling with not keeping him in a cage while alone right now.  I promised him that he would not have to wear it until I leave.  Do I give him lots of relief or teases over the next ten days?  With our child around, there are limited alone times for us.  Next week, we will have probably three hours a day alone during the week.   This is when we will rekindle everything sidetracked over the last few months.

What shall I do when we are alone?  Would love your thoughts and suggestions.

PS: Posted this on both sites.  Besides the picture, there are no differences between the two.

Sense of Relief

Now that everything is out there and we have an approach in place to avoid problems in the future, we are going to try and get back to 'normal'.  I feel the weight of the world off me now that everything is in the open.  I don't feel the need to defend myself here - my sincerity will be proven over time.  If you were here and saw the changes, you might understand.  As soon as his job situation is stabilized, we will begin working toward fixing things.  This includes selling the house and my working off of cash only.  From there, I will get a job and start adding back in what I spent.  I am selling everything that I cannot return on eBay as well.

We were intimate yesterday for the first time in a long time.  It felt great.  I love my husband will not throw that away over my problem.  We are moving forward.

Addressing Husband's Post

I am sure most of you saw my husband post.  Let me tell you that I am sick about what I have done.  I have a problem.  I think it comes from my childhood when I had nothing.  It could also come from a feeling of isolation that I have living where we do.   I  know I have put many things at risk because of my compulsive behavior.  I am selling everything and returning what I can.  It makes me very sad and anxious as I have betrayed my husbands trust and put the life my child has gotten to know at risk.

As for controlling my husbands sex, this period has been the closest we have ever been.  I would hate to give that up.  Right now though, I am trying to deal with the problems at hand.

PS: I don't think this form of intimacy is appropriate for the blogs but he can have this forum.  I always thought of the blogs as a form of entertainment for you all. 

Ruined Orgasms, A How-To

Looking online, it seems that most people do not do a ruined orgasm.  From experimenting with my husband, I think I know the most effective way to do it.

First, I think the best ones include no stimulation of the shaft.  That is a personal choice. The reason that I say this is because men are used to the shaft being stroked.  The mental part of no stroking of the shaft is important to changing the feelings that they have.  I prefer to rub the area between the balls and the anus.  At first, I am much rougher.  I can see that he struggles with not telling me to stop.  After a bit of that, I back off and massage that area less roughly.   Another important part is that they must ask to orgasm.  You can try and see every twitch but it works much better if they need to warn you well in advance.  Once they begin warning you, stop stimulation and wait.  Give then 30-60 second breaks and then restart.  When I am doing the best, he begins thrusting his hips into the air.  Try and get them to settle down and be less showy.  As they feel the need to orgasm, keep edging them closer and closer.   At this point, what you are trying to do is get one big drop of semen on the tip.  As soon as you get this, stop stimulation and the session is over.  In future sessions, you can push them a little further.  The goal as I see it is to have them orgasm just a little about 30-60 seconds after all stimulation is removed.  When I've asked my husband about this, he says that he fights against the orgasm but at one point, he has no ability to control things and the desire to cum just overwhelms him.  With stimulation removed at just the right time, that sensation leads to the smallest of semen releases.  He is hornier than ever after I have done this.  This is why I think cock cages are important as it is doubtful that most men can control their urge to stroke to orgasm.  Eventually, my husband learned to like this form of orgasm so much that he almost didn't want a full orgasm.  This is because he was getting attention from me every night.

I hope this helps.