Lovey Dovey in Chastity & Kathy Griffin Topless

Why does it take two weeks of 24/7 chastity for my man to get all lovey dovey and attentive?  I finally have him the way I want and he has the nerve to ask if he can get out of the cage or do something sexual.  Why would I want him out so soon when he is finally behaving the way I like?  I teased him a little and said a firm 'no' to him.  Plus, I'm having my monthly visitor so he is just going to have to wait.

Work had him a little worked up tonight - seems a number of deals didn't close.  Anyhow, he needs to control his enthusiasm in work and not have high ups and downs.  Just like he needs to stay at this way of behaving for me. 

Day 6 of 7

Well, he fell asleep before I got to bed last night again.  As such, he lost the chance on Day 6.  Today is his last chance for a while although I do need to do the foot shot for the blog.

Oh, I met someone online who has been following the blog and sending ideas now and then for a while.  I'm all excited as he has offered to make or help my husband make some fun toys for use on my husband.  One is a board that we would strap him down to so that he can't move an inch when I'm tormenting him.  I'll add a better picture of that later today.  The one you need for our play would keep his legs spread - this one that is sold online doesn't do that.  There were other things like a ball crusher, cock stretcher and more.  The one we talked about that I hope we can figure out is one where he is strapped down but if he struggles, it either pinches his nipples more tightly or squeezes his balls or sticks something up his ass.  We are noodling that while my husband works to making his better cock trap a reality.  Hopefully, if any of this works, I can make this my job - I would love to help other women do what I am doing - and make money from it. 

Days 4 and 5 of 7

As you could read from his post, he got teased but no action those two days.  On Sunday, everyone was exhausted from a long day of driving and going out and about.  Monday, I just felt off from the diet and had to take a pass until the evening.  When I got to bed, he was sound asleep so that opportunity was lost by him.  He still has Tuesday and Wednesday left before lock-up so he might get a bit more.  I know I promised him an orgasm a day but I'm not going to wake him up to do it for him.  If he is asleep and can't wait, then the opportunity is lost.

Among the things I need to do is the foot orgasm as I promised a number of people that shot for the blog.  I will see if that can be a midday photo shoot during one of his lunch breaks. 

Wednesday night

An odd way to pogo.

I see that he wrote about the early anniversary gift last night.  That was quite thoughtful of him.  The funny thing is that when we were getting ready for bed, he asked if he could take off the cage.  I told him politely, 'no', and that I wanted him to keep it on until tomorrow night so that he could take it off for our anniversary.  I then sent him off to check on our child. 

Isn't it funny what men will do to get a little action or think that they can get something?  They are so conniving.  Well, today is our anniversary.  Let's see what is in store for him.  As tomorrow is a half day followed by a three-day weekend, it will be much easier to monitor his uncaged actions. 

Busy Beaver

This isn't the sexiest post as the last 36 hours have been spent taking care of a kid with a bad fever.  Between that and getting caught up on housework, I was just really busy.  Sorry if the title was misleading.

I have my husband back in the cage.  That is good as he has been beyond busy.  Interestingly, the assholes that let him go at his last job are now looking for his help to save their failing business.  I hope those c*#@ksuckers lose their shirts.  For those new to the blog, go back a few months, the May/June area to see the junk they put us through.  With my husband having landed with a strong company, they are trying to use him and the company to save theirs.  I've told my husband not to even talk to these pricks as they can't be trusted.  He seems to like to waste his time with them though.  At the end, I think he will just play with them like the cat but I dislike all of them as they harm those around them to serve their personal interests - not even the company.

My child's fever is finally broken.  I think today will be the first day she hasn't had it in almost five days!  What a weird illness.  Fever and cold.  It his a good chunk of her class.

I will try and write something more stimulating today or tonight.  As I started posting daily, I didn't want to go too far and not post a note.  Thank you for following this.  I feel like we are building a little community here.  Maybe someday I can figure out a way for you all to meet each other - many very nice and interesting people here.

Okay, here is a video that is just very silly but goes with today's theme:

Learning

First day with both child and husband not in the house.  I used that time to go to the nail salon and get them painted.  I will see about taking some pictures tomorrow to see if you like what I did with them.  With that, they are ready for pictures with my husband.  Given that the majority of you voted for the strap on, this could take a while - or not.  It really depends on my mood.  I am awakened sexually and now needing a way to use it.  He came home for lunch today but got stuck on the phone half of the time he was here.  What little time we had together, we had something to eat and then he fixed a problem on the computer.  As he did this, I had him stand (fully clothed) at the table and work on things while I proceeded to tease him by rubbing his caged cock and then reaching for his nipples.  I was able to find his balls as well.  After a brief tease, I let him go on his way.

Additionally, a reader of this blog has turned me on to a few female supremacy sites.  One is Lady Misato.  The other is femdommesociety.com.  As I have time, I will explore the sites to see what I can learn as it relates to advancing the relationship.  In general, they have some good ideas for getting your husband deeper into things.  As I try things, I will keep you all informed of our progress.  The funny thing that I noticed with both is that they don't involve cock cages.  To me, that is a great way to remind the men of your control when they are away from you.

We have started eating in a more calorie aware way.  Next thing is to increase exercise.  With all of that, I might be a little less camera shy as well as who knows what else.

Happy New Year!

Resolutions.  So easy to make.  Now is the time to keep them.  What are mine?  Well, I got out of shape in 2010.  I will take off that weight and get back into the shape that I was in not only two years ago but hopefully to wear I was ten years ago.  I want to travel and see family in Europe.  I want to continue on this sexual awakening that my husband and I are on.  I need to get my child a little less dependent on us and stronger on her own. 

I let my husband out of the chastity cage for New Year's Eve.  It goes back on this morning.  He is way too horny to leave uncaged and I love it when he is in this condition.  I did a little tease this early morning of him.  Only touched his nipples, nothing lower.  I know he wanted more but he will need to wait. 

I'm hoping that we can turn this personal blog into a bit of a community this year.  I've met so many nice people that I would like you to know each other.  Oh, I hope my husband really makes that new chastity cage.  If not, I will need to think about getting something that is more secure and less prone to breaking. 

My real hope is that the economy gets better and we all have less worries on the job/money front.  The last few years have been hard for many of us and a little bit easier would be nice.  I truly hope that you and everyone deserving get a few of their dreams and prayers answered.  Remember, none of those things will happen without you trying to make them so.  If you have a desire, don't just long for it, try and make it real.

Squirms

Well, did a little tease of my hubby yesterday.  I played with his cage and pinched his nipples until I thought he might wince.  He took it like a man.  After about ten minutes of that, I had him rub my legs and feet.  I love that.

Just a few minutes ago, we talked about our schedules over the next few weeks.  Unfortunately, we will have very little time together.  Either he is away from home, I'm with my older daughter for her pregnancy or we are not alone.  That is at least the next 14-20 days.   Even though he orgasmed earlier this week, he has been in the cage for two weeks straight.  That means at least a month solid and a few airports with it on.

He is already squirming.  Poor baby.

Thursday Marathon

If you want to read the details of what I did with my husband today, go to his blog by clicking here.

About two hours after we were done, he sent me this picture of his caged friend by iPhone.  Don't you just love the nice deep red that he has?  Much nicer than that pale skin on his leg.  He should thank me because I got his circulation going good down there.

I'm not done either.  He needs more tomorrow.  The woman who we met in person gave me some good ideas in getting husband's to be the types we are looking for.  I won't say it here as someone is reading this who I don't want to know my plans.  Here is the thing that I think many people seem to do wrong in my mind.  There should be no milkings.  If you let them release the semen, they are not as on edge.  The ruined ones are nice because a little gets out and then the rest is dealt with by the body.  You also need to wait long enough on orgasms so that they learn what it means to be a good submissive husband.  Start with a week then ten days then two weeks.  Look at mine, I have him up to about a month between them.  So you know, I love the feel of him inside me but I think this makes everything between us more interesting.

As for my feelings on all of this, I think it is extremely hot to be able to tease your man and bring him pleasure in a way that he brings you even more pleasure.  It keeps the relationship close and him paying so much more attention to me.  If I just brush him or do the smallest tease, he is all over me.  That is the way I remember it when we were teenagers.  I recommend to women out there to try this and don't listen to their whining.  Eventually, they will be like mine and accept and enjoy the attention you are giving them.  Anyone reading this site desires that at some level.   Even today after nearly an hour of teasing and while I was teasing him I said to him that I thought that he liked what I was doing to him more than if I gave him an orgasm.  He agreed so I gave him even more teasing.

Another great thing that has come form this is that he gets exercise while I tease.  He pulls and strains at the rope.  That is resistance training.  The contractions in his pelvic area are a great form of stomach crunch.  At points while I was teasing him, most of his body was quivering while he was standing.  What a fun form of exercise.  I can't wait for tomorrow.

Thoughts

My husband broke down and got an iPhone yesterday replacing his Blackberry.  Not only does it save us $300/year, I like it as there is an app where I can tell where he is at all times.  As soon as he is working again, I want that for our child too.

I wrenched my back yesterday working around the house.  I'm taking it easy the next few days to try and have it feel better.  My husband timidly asked me if he could have the cage off for a few days.  Is he kidding?  I told him it was more likely that I was going to leave it on for as long as the time people are saying on the vote.  By the way, it seems that the vote on what kind of orgasm he had doesn't interest you.  I can understand why - it doesn't really matter.  If there is a poll that you want me to serve up, please tell me and I will think about it.

With his cock all locked up, are there any pictures that people are interested in?  I think one with him having an orgasm may be a while in happening.

It was suggested by a Femdom friend that I get a dildo so that I don't need to use his cock like I did the other day.  She also suggested a dildo that goes on his chin while his mouth is available to kiss me down there.  I like those suggestions.  Even on a tight budget, those seem like things we need.  I can't trust the chastity cage to keep him from cumming so we need to do other things to reduce the chance.  I have begun thinking about the perfect chastity cage.  If we could design it and it was more secure than the CB-6000, but just as easy to wear, people would buy it right?  I don't see how the metal ones are any more secure than the plastic one.  They can slip out the back in all of them.  I'm not excited about a piercing and I need to wonder, what happens when the men get small?  The piercing must get pulled on very hard.  That doesn't seem good.  I think the trick is finding something that holds onto the shaft so that pulling out is impossible.  At the same time, it needs to be hygenic.  Those waist belt things that cover the whole area seem impractical for long-term use as they would be tough to keep clean, you can't exercise in them and with a child in the house, would invite too many questions.  The CB-6000 is small enough that no one needs to know of it.

My Feelings and Emotions in FemDom

Serving B brought up a good point.  What are my feelings and emotions about all of this?  In the beginning, I thought of this as a game that brought us closer together.  I still do but it has become more than that.  It is a way that we are connected more deeply.  He has given his ability to orgasm to me while I have accepted that and the increased responsibilities that it brings.  He has handed over something very important to a man and expects me to use that responsibly.  There is an emotional rawness between us that is happening.  That seems to be solving some of my issues of insecurity that showed up in my spending and other feelings of potential abandonment.  Now I know that he we are completely connected and moreso everyday.

With everything going on related to his work, this is a nice distraction.  It is more than that too.  It gives us something not related to the daily pressures.  We have physical closeness from this that might not happen with the distractions.  This gets us to be together even more.  It has made me feel more wanted by him.  Men don't realize but when they masturbate, their interest in sex goes down which also affects the amount of attention they give their women.  With kids, work and daily pressures, it is easy to not put in the energy of sexuality with each other.

There is also the chance to explore fantasies with each other more.  I am thinking about things far more than I would have without it.  That is good for both of us.  I think the idea of people paying attention to what we do turns me on even more.  The combination of controlling him, the voyeurism of the blog and the community of supporters all impact how I feel.  Having met those who can help me deal with this has made a big difference too.  In meeting that couple, I realized that this is a great way to keep a relationship alive and very interesting.  It is like a book - we have started a different journey together.  I'm not sure what that ending is but it is a fun journey that beats the hum drum that might be the case without it.

As I think of more, I will share it in new posts.

Except when we want it, do men need to be let out of their cages?

I'm posting this here for those of you who do not read my husband's blog.  His post proves that men do not need to be let out of chastity cages regularly or be allowed to orgasm unless we want it.  I would like to hear from he whiny men who disagree as I think it is just that - whining.  Here is what he wrote:


"Yesterday, after I peed, I waited for a few seconds and then decided to give it a little push to clear the extra fullness.   I then pushed out a long stream of a thicker white fluid.  I pushed again and another stream came out.  A few hours later, I did this again and a much smaller amount came out.   I seem to have "cleared" the amount of semen or ejaculate that one would normally have from an orgasm.  After I was done, the fullness on the prostate was gone.  There was no pleasure to this - it seemed to be a physical need to relieve my body of this build-up.  It was similar to the effects of a milking without any physical pleasure or pain. 

I've read up on this and it seems to be a natural way that the body deals with extra seminal fluid.  When you pee, it puts pressure on the prostate with the end result in some cases being that it essentially forces the prostate to clear.

All of this seems to remove two fallacies from a lot of posts on male chastity and chastity devices: 1) Men do not need to orgasm every so often - the body will resolve this one way or the other on its own; 2) The chastity device does not need to come off for cleaning - at least the CB-x000 series doesn't need it.  I can clean just fine with it on.  Liquid soap and make-up removal pads with a cotton swap do a very good job at cleaning everything."


Somebody explain to me why we need to let them out except for when we want to?  What is the real need?

September Season + Midday Surprise

It feels like a new television season to me for our play time.  Between husband looking for work and daughter at school, we will have much more time to play starting next week.  It reminds me of three years ago when he was working from home for about a year.  I think we had more intimate time then than ever before or after.  Now with the changes to how we play, there should be a good amount of fun and post-able material.  So far, the ideas that I like most are a picture of my shoe on his cock both caged and uncaged.  Another would be him having an orgasm on my shoes.  I like the idea a friend online suggested where I set it up in our closet so that his hands are tied over his head while his legs are tied spread to the walls.  I can then spank him and tease him as much as I want and he can't do very much to stop me.   If someone stops by or I need a break, I can just close the door.  Another version of that I want to try is doing that in the backyard.  I would tie him up, tease him over and over and then go swimming with him naked.  Of course, I would not let him orgasm - just play with him that way.  If I do that, I will be sure to take pictures.  Doing things outdoors is a fantasy of mine that I am thinking that I should try.  Someone else wants a picture of him naked and me dressed.  I might do that but I really don't want to show faces.  One of him licking me down there is a possibility.

Any other thoughts and ideas for me?

Reminder that I am happy to talk about other topics or questions in the FORUM area at the top.  If anyone wants a particular topic added, tell me and I'll add it.

PS: While I was getting ready to go out and run a few errands, my husband saw me naked in the bathroom getting ready.  As we had some privacy, he massaged my chest very nicely before sliding a hand down lower.  Very quickly, I needed to lean against the counter as he found my clit.  Within at most two or three minutes, I was having a nice orgasm.  I proceeded to tease him for about a minute before sending him on his way.

Empty Nest Weekend

I am having a hard time with it but our baby is going to spend a weekend away from us - almost four hours away!  Drop off is Friday and return is Monday around lunchtime.   Going into 4th grade isn't a baby but will always be to me.

The fun side is that we have a whole weekend alone.  What should we do?  I posted the poll yesterday.  I think keeping him naked all weekend is a good thing.  Teasing him a lot and having him serve me is good too.  The ideas are endless.  I won't post them here as he helps me write this and I don't want him to know what I have in mind.  I would like your ideas though.  What shall we do?  I have been without pleasure for as long as him given my travels and the monthly visitor and I am looking forward to some orgasms.

Share your ideas.  So far, most have been good as you can see that we listen.

Family is Away

Just a quick update. I am now alone in the house with the animals. As per instructions, I am wearing nothing but my CB-6000 keyholder lock number 462009. This will be an odd period of time being locked up, potentially watched by her online eyes and kept naked.

Wife got to her destination safely. It was an uneventful flight. I will post updates from her as I get them.

Ideas for Rules of Behavior

This is just a quick list of things that I'm considering for while I am away from my husband.   Many of these have been suggested by you. Feel free to add suggestions:

1) Chastity cage
2) Naked in house
3) Minimum clothing outside
4) Shower before bed
5) Sleep without covers
6) Webcam and person monitoring him
7) Ankle cuffs to slow his movements
8) He should tie himself to the bed at night
9) Yardwork and home improvement
10) Exercise
11) Diet
12) Email to me each day with detail as to what he did
13) Write something erotica on the blog every day or two to keep him hornier
14) Keep body shaved and clean
15) Buttplug for at least an hour a day
16) Wear collar in house
17) Day to day things like job search, pay bills, etc.

I'm not saying that I am or am not doing all of this.  Well, you know I am doing some.  The first five are certain.  He already sleeps without covers but does wear bed clothes because of our child.  Anyhow, I  thought that I would list the ideas here to share as ideas come in.  This weekend, I will set the final Rules of Behavior and assign him the 'monitors'.

Since I will not have a computer with me all of the time, I will probably have him keep this blog fresh for me so that this doesn't get stale as it did when we were having our biggest problems.  Maybe this is a good time to have him share our early stories doing things at the beginning of our relationship.  Those are very erotic.  I can always dictate to him over the phone and have him write it up.  I often have him clean up my blogs as he is the better writing editor.  I also like the pictures he finds.  This slave auction painting is a great example.   Anyhow, enough for now.  New pictures of us soon, I hope.

Ten Days Until...

In ten days, I go on a trip with our child to see my family for two weeks.  We got these tickets months ago for a great price.  My husband is staying behind to look after the animals, look for a job and because there is too much spanish speaking for his taste when I visit family.  He prefers to have this as his alone time for the year.  The third week we will be visiting other family about six hours from the house and we will see him for the part of that week that he can break away.  It probably won't be for more than a night as it is way too difficult to travel with the animals.

Two things come to mind: 1) What to do with him for the next ten days? and 2) Do I keep him in a cage for the three weeks apart?  The last one is easy - yes, he will be caged.  The first one is harder.  I know he is horny and I am struggling with not keeping him in a cage while alone right now.  I promised him that he would not have to wear it until I leave.  Do I give him lots of relief or teases over the next ten days?  With our child around, there are limited alone times for us.  Next week, we will have probably three hours a day alone during the week.   This is when we will rekindle everything sidetracked over the last few months.

What shall I do when we are alone?  Would love your thoughts and suggestions.

PS: Posted this on both sites.  Besides the picture, there are no differences between the two.

Husband's First Trip Owned

My husband will be out of town the next two days on business.  He thought I'd let him out of this chastity cage for the trip.  Is he kidding?  This is why I got it.  While I trust him, this is why I locked him up.  No cheating or masturbating will occur now.  Given how horny he says he is, I will double check when he gets home.  I wasn't going to give him the plastic lock as that can be broken off so easily but he made a good point on the security clearance thing.  What is the worst that happens if they stop him?  He is embarrassed. 

I think he will be fine.
 

Oral Service

Things are back to normal, if there is such a thing in a Femdom household.  Reading up on what we are doing, that is what we really are.  It is more than keeping him in chastity - it is me in control.  His libido and attention toward me are back and I am feeling frisky.  He asked me if he could begin the oral sex of me every day as the poll suggested to me.  I told him that I thought it was a good idea and we could start tonight.  He is still kept from being in me until I milk him properly.

I missed the delivery today of that Emla creme - a special skin desensitizer used for people getting piercings at tattoo shops.  Without that, he is too horny to enter me and not cum in seconds.  As such, he will need to wait until next week to test that with me.  

People love the feet pictures so I will try and do some with him in the cage this weekend.  

More tomorrow.

PS: I have asked him to write his thoughts and feelings on his side of the blog.  I expect a good post tonight.

The Power over Men

Well, I am teasing him a lot these days. It was clear at about 8 days that his attitude was changing. By day 10, he is just the perfect husband. He calls to check on me during the day. He comes home for lunch. Doesn't go out with friends without checking with me first. This doesn't have anything to do with all of the teasing and him being caged, does it?

I really want him to stay just like this. Him being like this has me horny too. If the milking works as advertised, I may never let him cum the old fashioned way again. Especially if that creme we ordered works as the pharmacist says it will.

I found this nice picture of him before I had him remove all of the hair. The way I started was by having him shave down but keep some. That is this picture. Then it got shorter and shorter and one fun night, I shave his pubic hair and ass completely. Now, his chest and privates are clean. I think the legs and rest of him may be next. Mmmm.

I hope you all like the poll I made. I want to do all of them. He for some reason doesn't share the same excitement as me. He said he will not object to whatever I say to do. I know he is turned on. I tell him that if they all win, he will have to do them all. I might want to do them for a month as well. I need to think about that one.