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Friday, December 31, 2010

Added a Chat Room Function

Now all of you kinksters can chat amongst yourselves when I'm not around.  Hopefully, this will be a good way for us to build a little community of like minded people on here.  I will be on later today.  I have a few errands to run.  I can still be reached on Yahoo IM as keyholderwife or at my email which is

If we don't chat, please have a safe New Year's Eve.  Don't act stupid and drink and drive. 

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Worked Up Husband - What to Do?

Odd statue in Oxford, UK
You'll see in my husband's post tonight that he making himself worked up.  So you know, I'm horny too but I don't get all worked up like him.  Life gets in the way and sometimes you need to wait.  Maybe we will get a chance tomorrow for a few hours.  I told him that today.  And yes, he might have had a chance today if the hair coloring had been faster but she is my friend and does it for a special price for us.  I went back to the more orange and blonde hair color.  You all will get a chance to see it as soon as we are taking pictures of the next play time.  Is that tomorrow or the next day or next week?  No idea. 

So it makes three days in a row he thought he might get a little time.  With children and life, it is what it is.  Maybe if I told him he had to wait a few weeks, he would be getting less worked up.  Let's see how tomorrow goes.

He is all worked up.  What to do?  Wait is about all that he can do...and give me foot rubs.

This is another view of the statue
 PS: Is this statue funny or what?  Is that a wallet in his hand?

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Opportunity Missed and a Broken CB-6000

Husband in Birdlocked
Well, we had about five hours alone yesterday.  Unfortunately for my husband, I just wasn't in the mood.  I had to clean up the house after all of the house guests who had just left the day before.  I know he wasn't happy about it but that is life.  I know you think he should do it but he just isn't good at it.  Instead, he ran errands and waited for me.  Unless our child does another play date this week, he is now looking at a very long time before he might get some fun.  He starts his new job next week so I doubt I will have the free time with him when our child is in school.

On a personal level, it would be nice to have some private time with him - hopefully we can figure out some schedule where we are alone.  As we are regularly interrupted at night, I'm not sure where we will find the alone time.

I see how using the strap-on is what the most of you want to see next.  I really thought the foot pics would win.  I haven't had a chance to talk to him about this but I am guessing that he isn't thrilled with the vote.  He should be happy cuckolding didn't win.  I know I am as I am not ready to consider that.

What else?  Oh, his CB-6000 broke again.  I'll leave it for him to describe what happened.  I don't think those things are made for 24/7 use.  I'm going to have him work on developing his more secure and durable chastity cage.  This is ridiculous that it can't make four months without a problem.  He has the Birdlocked on now.  I know he isn't thrilled with it but after so long, I am not going to leave him unlocked.  Men are just too weak to be trusted not to masturbate after so long without an orgasm.  This doesn't look as secure but I know how to make sure that he hasn't done anything.  After this long without, it is easy to tell. 

I'll have him take a picture of it on as I can't find any pictures of it in use other than this one online.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Christmas Day Recap and Thinking about the Poll

I hope everyone had a nice holiday.  Ours was great.  When I get a chance, I will show you the necklace my husband bought me.  It had keys and hearts all over it.  Given what we have done this year, that seems appropriate.

After presents in the morning, we got ready for some close friends coming over for dinner.  Instead of the traditional turkey, ham or lamb, we had surf and turf.  My husband surprised me with his cooking skills.  As it was so unique, I won't post it hear (I saw he posted what he made on Facebook to his 400 "friends"). The short version is he made a soup and desert - both unique and something we will have many times in the future.  Friends bought things to drink and gifts.  In all, we had a wonderful time.

We will see about alone time in the not too near future.  I would like to say sooner but it is tough to get alone time with a child at home.  Hopefully, she will do a play date with a friend.  This is my last week where he isn't working - after that he is back at it full-time.  While I will miss having him around, it is good for our finances and his attitude to have a steady income.

What else?  Maybe I will have him paint my toes in anticipation of the photo shoot.  Right now that is neck and neck with using the strap-on on him.  He will be getting both but the outcome of the poll will probably determine which happens first.  I'm absolutely shocked that the cuckold choice is getting so many votes.  I think we have a ways to go before I start doing that - if I ever do.  It is funny though that people online who are much more knowledgable than me say that at some point it will be the natural progression of the relationship to involve others.  I still don't see it but then again I didn't see more than half of what we are doing a year ago.  In fact, I didn't see any of this.

For those of you wanting this with your other half, it can happen.  Look at us...and it all happened in less than a year.

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Happy Holidays and Thanks

Kissing under the mistletoe anyone?
I wanted to take a post and thank everyone who follows us.  I cannot tell you how taken back I am by the interest.  Since starting this about eight or nine months ago, I have learned so much from many who I have met because of this blog.  At this pace, 2011 should be quite an interesting year.

I was thinking of mentioning those who have meant the most to me but I they know who they are.  The encouragement, ideas and support to try things has been something special.  Those who have followed from the start know that we have gone through ups and downs - the downs enough to destroy a weak union.

One was my spending problems that I still have trouble mentioning.  I won't share specifics but I have learned a lesson that I won't forget soon.

Another big challenge was my husband's work situation.  After he left there, we found out that the guy running the company was covering up all sorts of problems created by him and he attributes those problems to other people who he gets rid of.  He professes to be religious but religious people who behave like that...well, I hope there is a special place for them.  During that time another person senior to him found out that he knew that he was cheating on his wife with men at a skanky bar - not good for someone who pretends to love his wife and be squeaky clean.  I can't even mention what occurs in that bar it is so gross.  I don't wish bad for anyone but I hope the bad people get what they deserve.

In the New Year, he has a promising new job.  It's less money but it is still has much upside.  The good thing is that he is competing with his old job.  Let's hope he can take their best clients.

While we won't have the free income of the past, we are blessed by those of you who are supporting us here.  2011 is an exploration for us in so many ways.  My goal will be to get into "photo ready" shape.  Don't expect that fast as all of the stresses of this year will take a while to exercise off.  For now, I will give you bits and pieces that I hope you find interesting.

Most importantly, I want to thank my husband for this wonderful journey.  The few who really know me on here know that he has to clean up my English for many of these posts.  So I dictate or write a first draft and then he will come on and fix things up.

Everyone have the best of holidays.  I think 2011 will hold good things for those of us who are true to our selfs.  To our knowledge, we live only once on this Earth and we need to make the most of it.

Kisses to all of you.  Merry Christmas.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

How to Find a Domme

As there isn't a lot going on with hubby on the sexual front yesterday and today I thought I would write something for the subs out there who are afraid to tell their wife or girlfriend or the ones who are living a life online only but secretly want what I have with my husband. 

How to start?

If your wife shows no interest and you are afraid to bring it up, you have a couple of options.  One is to introduce her to me on here.  Tell her that you ran across a website where a relationship that had problems became stronger when the wife took control of what happen in the house while the man controlled the outside.  That means he is strong and hard working to the outside world but at home he is mine.   Your wife needs to know that you masturbate when not around her and that she needs to take ownership of your cock.  Whether you have my blog make that point or a chat session or maybe an honest conversation will get you going down the road.  

However you do it, you need to let her know that you want to be more connected with her.  This means that you have obligations to her and her to you.  Start small.  Don't go for everything at once.  Introduce this as a game for a weekend and let her know how much closer you felt because of it.  Show her extra attention while playing.  Then try it for a week.  She will soon prefer the way you respond to her MORE when she controls your orgasms then when she doesn't.  

With the start in a small way that doesn't scare her SLOWLY add longer time to the small things.  Don't add more things yet.  Just get her comfortable with the simplest ones.  

After this, get her to read on things or chat to people like me.  There are many places for that. is one. is another.  Many like  

The next step will be having friends in the lifestyle.  This is about where I am now.  I am just getting to the point where I could go to a club or gathering to watch things going on.  

The main thing here is that you need to be honest and have a good conversation with her.  Don't be a wuss.  In a good relationship, you both need to open up.  Be smart about when you share it.  Do it when playing in bed maybe.  Remember not to overwhelm and scare her.  Start small...unless she is wilder or more open than most.

For the single men,

You need to first be comfortable with dating.  Confidence in yourself is important.  I don't want my man to be a door mat.  I want him to be strong and submit to me his sex.  That is more erotic than a wuss who says 'yes Maam' 'no Maam' and isn't a real person.  If that is you, I personally would get tired of having such a weak man.  The allure is getting a powerful man to change when alone with you - at least it is for me.

After you get comfortable with yourself and feel confident that you don't give off a creepy feel (trust me, many of you do), start meeting people.  Creative types are typically more open.  Go to meetings if you can do that.  That isn't me.  It seems the best place for people of similar interests to meet is online.  So chat with lots of people and meet.  You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.  

With all of this, a sense of humor helps and good personal hygiene.  Don't be an Adam Sandler type - try for the more charming types like Craig Ferguson.  

If you have questions, you can always email me at or Yahoo IM at wifekeyholder.  

I hope this helps.  

Sunday, December 19, 2010

No Alone Time

Roisin Murphy in the holiday spirit
Well alone time today is off.  The friend of our daughter is sick with a cold so no alone time.  That is okay for me though as I'm feeling off today.  I took a few too many of the wrong medicine by mistake and it has me feeling very off.  I'm told it will take a little while to feel back like myself.  I'm not going to say the medicine though.   I'm pretty open about most things but no need to getting too open on things that are that important to you.

As far as serious play time, we may have time alone on the Tuesday before the house is overrun with family and friends beginning Wednesday.  Maybe he can take a shot at painting my toenails.  I'll need to think of a few things that he can do for me even if I can torment or play with him.

Friday, December 17, 2010

Random Bits

Demi Moore
Looks like we will get a final night alone this Sunday.  To let him out or not is the question.   Honestly, I'm not in the mood to think about letting him out with all of the holiday things going on.  The women will probably agree but sex is the last thing on my mind right now.  Getting the house ready for my older daughter and her baby is on my mind most.  I know that doesn't get the 85% of you who read this erect but that is some of the life stuff.

I have an interesting follower on here.  A younger guy about 28.  He and his wife are separated with a 2 year old.  She is abusive toward him verbally.  Clearly she has a lot of anger - it might be because they were both too young to have a kid.  He is equally selfish just thinking about his feelings and orgasms.  I've offered to mediate but he won't go for it because they are too far gone.  I told him how we were in the same boat for years but were committed enough to our daughter, if not each other, to work things out.  Now things seem better than any point in our relationship.  What I can't figure out is why young people have kids when they aren't ready for it and then bail at the first sign of problems.  They are both immature it seems but need to set aside their problems to think about the little girl who didn't ask for any of this.  His wife sounds like the perfect Domme if he can work on finding the root of her anger.  

Anyhow, I wrote that as he wants me to control his orgasms and speak rather harsh toward him.  Makes little sense to me.  It seems his wife was doing that through frustration.  Maybe I should start a marriage counseling service.

Not the normal post and not one to get you hard but these are just random bits of life.  Hopefully, I will have something hotter for you over the weekend.  

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

It's Fun having him Caged

I don't know why but just having him in the cage is a turn-on to me.  I love teasing him when I know there is nothing he can do about it.  I'm not sure why this is so erotic to me but it is.  I had so much fun teasing him today.  I kissed him all the time.  I twisted and tormented his nipples.  I got him excited and straining in the cage.  I love that he allows me to do all of this without complaint.  I don't know if many men would allow for this total control of their orgasms and having them wear the cage 24/7...which I didn't do much recently because of all the skin tears down there.

Anyhow, he seems to be reacting very nicely to my touches.  He must like my control and the way this turns me on too.  I know he does as you all do given all we have written on here.

Short post but I want to try and get more on here and not make it so long without refreshes.  He hasn't posted in a while but I expect him to tomorrow.  I am looking forward to his posts on the things of the last week.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Locked for the holidays

Perfect blouse for the holidays
With everything healed, he is back in the cage.  Hopefully this will teach him to be more ready for me when I want sex out of him.  Overdoing the emla creme really made him useless in that way.  Now that I have my monthly visitor, he won't need it.  We have my older daughter coming on Wednesday through Christmas so he has some time to get horny and desperate again and be better at serving me when and how I want it.

With the holidays on us, it is amazing how the hours in the day just disappear.  Before we know it, it will be 2011.  Amazing.  It seemed like the 1990 not too long ago.

I got no ideas from any of you kinksters on holiday gifts.  Take a break from jerking off and send me a note on what a good gift might be.  Email is  Ciao for now.  Mas manana.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Emla Creme before Sex

With getting ready for the holidays and selling a bunch of stuff on eBay, I've been really busy this week.  Sorry to not have posted as much.

Had some play time with my husband on Thursday.  He coated his cock with emla creme for a few hours while I was getting a 90 minute massage down the street.  When I came back, I was ready to put him to good use.  After giving me a few orgasms by hand and machine, it was time to put him to work.  The problem was that he put so much on that it had zero feeling which meant it was hard to keep it erect.  I couldn't find the cock rings so this made him tough to use.  He was able to keep it up for a missionary position fucking of me.  That felt great and brought me to another orgasm.

The think that I didn't like was that all of the thrashing and squirming that I usually get out of him didn't happen as he couldn't feel anything.  I even put the vibrator on its strongest setting and he was numb to it.  The idea of a little less sensitivity is good but even with a cock ring, this isn't as fun for me.  With a cock ring though, he would really be a meat puppet and could go all night long so I guess it has its uses.

I was a bit to strong with him that day and the next the underside of his cock had a big tear near the head.  In giving him extra time out of the cock cage, he is not as horny as when I leave it on him.  While I know he hasn't taken matters into his own hands, his desire level seems to be lower when I don't lock him up.  He thinks it is more related to work related matters.  As I mentioned before, he accepted a job the other day but is still working on two other projects that want to hire him.  I won't bore you all with this but it all distracts him a lot.  None pay the cash we want but each could be great long term if the jobs work out as expected.

I will have more to chat about later - we are making cookies for a bake sale today.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Update on the Week So Far

Jolie's S&M series
Not alot to write about this week - well, actually there was but not too much sexy stuff for far. 

On Monday, my husband was on the road all day so not much of a chance to do anything with him then.  On Tuesday, I wanted to have a little fun with him but he was getting ready for a day of meetings that was today.  Today he had those meeting and fortunately landed a job.  It has a base pay lower than what we are used to but great upside if the business is successful.  The most important thing is that it is an income stream after six months without one. 

As for me, I had one of my best months selling things on eBay - I've made $1,000 already this month and hope to make another $1,000 before it is over. 

Now for tomorrow, I expect to get some play time with him.  Same on Friday.  I don't have any idea what I will do but you'd better believe that he need to control himself better.  I have some ideas on how to do that but will not say that on here until after the play time is done. 

For the foot fetish people, I am about ready to do the foot pictures.  Getting those nails looking right has taken a long time.  They are not perfect yet but they are close.  It seems to have taken forever for them to get back to normal.  For those of you who do not remember, a pedicure gave me nail infections in both big toes.  I lost the nails and it took forever for them to grow back.

What else?  The New Year's Resolution for everyone in this house is to get in better shape and lose weight.  I was going to do it sooner but that takes a bit. 

Oh, I think I found the coolest Christmas gift at Brookstone - a pen that records video and sound for two hours.  It can be placed anywhere and records what is in its vision.  You then just open it up and and plug it into your computer and watch the video and recharge it.  Price is $79 which seems inexpensive for such a cool spying device.  Your child can have it on them to record bullies or bad teachers.  You can record a baby sitter.  I'm sure some would spy on a spouse on the computer.  The uses seem endless and fun.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Gifts for the Holidays

I thought it would be a good idea to put this post out there today.  What is a good gift to give a Domme?  What is a good gift for a sub?

Friday, December 3, 2010

His Mistake

Sorry that I haven't posted since Tuesday.  Wednesday there wasn't a lot to say and Thursday Time-Warner's Roadrunner service was down for the day.

After Tuesday's play, both myself and my husband's sex drive remained high.  On Thursday after he teased out an orgasm in me, I began teasing him.  He was over me on the coach while I pinched his nipples and fiddled with his cock.  His arms were balance on the back of the couch and arm rest so to give me some space to work with.  I told him how Thursday was a tease and Friday would be the day we have old fashioned lovemaking.  I guess the teases and foreplay were too much and he came all over my clothes even though I had stopped teasing him.  Of course, this meant Friday was off.

A friend online gave me a great idea for next time.  Milk him by a prostate massage before sex and then engage him in it.  The funny thing is that I had told him that I knew he wouldn't last long and that he should cover his cock in the emla creme that morning before we play so that we can wash it off for when we play.  That way he will be able to last.

Anyhow, I'm not very pleased with him for ruining my fun.  He still seems at a higher level of need but not like a week ago.  Hell, he orgasmed twice this week!

PS: For the feet people, I know I have been promising foot pictures with him.  The growth of my large nails is going slow.  While the shape is about back, the nail itself isn't ready for painting.  I don't want to take pictures for the internet for all time and have them look bad.  Anyhow, patience and I will get you good pictures.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Reset the Clock

I thought you should know that I let my husband have an orgasm today.  After he gave me a wonderful massage and three orgasms by hand or machine, I touched him.  Within seconds he was on the edge.  I decided that it was time and gave him some relief.  I held his cock tight as he started to orgasm.  I held it so tight that very little semen was getting out.  I regripped and a bunch shot out but that was toward the end of his contractions.  I've read online that this is what many people consider ruined orgasms.  Not me.  He got to go through the whole process even if he wasn't free to shoot completely.  While he was relieved, he was also still horny.  We will see what tomorrow holds for his behavior and determine if this little bit of relief was not giving in too much. 

What else?  Oh, I would love to hear thoughts on what kink appropriate gift to get him for Christmas?  Any ideas? 

More tomorrow...


Well, it is getting fun in my house.  At 40 however many days, I am thinking he is horny.  He was pointing out the other day that it is actually 55 days or so if you count the orgasm in the cage.  As that was a real and big orgasm, why would you exclude it?  I'm more likely to reset to 8 days as I tried to give him an orgasm last week but he couldn't orgasm more than a trickle.

I've read online about the need to orgasm for prostate health.  That doesn't make sense.  How do the Buddhist Monks do it?  I would have said Catholic priests but I didn't want to make bad jokes.  Back to the Buddhist monks though - they never orgasmed.  Their bodies reabsorbed things.  He gets lots of exercise when I tease him.  He leaks a good amount so it comes out that way too.  I think the whole prostate thing is men finding a reason to need to release all the time.

I have some time to play with him this week.  We will see what is in store for him.

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Photography on the Internet

As a change up, I thought I would post a few pictures that I think are interesting.  This one to the left is an interesting perspective on things.

I especially like this one.  My husband introduced me to it.  It is done by a friend of Andy Warhol named Mark Sink.

While this picture isn't the best, I think Grace Jones is pretty amazing.  She is a strong lady which this picture shows.

I have some errands to run but will add fun pics to this link as I find them.

Friday, November 26, 2010

Happy Black Friday

I saw that someone thought my husband was small.   Normally that isn't the case but I saw this and it is by far the smallest he has ever been.  The first picture is more artistic while the second shows things clearer. 

His balls are tight against his body while the penis is also as tight or small as I've ever seen.  Is this because he was in the cage so long and the body is adjusting the other way?  Maybe it is because of his little injuries down there the last few days?  I would have thought that he would continue walking around with a semi given how horny he must be.  This looks like just the opposite. 
We got a nice little surprise - we will have some time alone this afternoon.  I was thinking about letting him pleasure me last night but by the time we got to bed, I was just too tired to want anything.  Maybe today.

Thursday, November 25, 2010


This week I experienced something new for me.  Well not totally new but in a way that I noticed more than ever.  After asking some of my online friends about it, I found it is the Domme version of subspace.  It is DommeSpace.  This is when you get a high Domming your partner.  I find that when I get there, his squirming to the pain and pleasure I inflict gets me spacy.  Understanding it a bit now, it is important for both play partners to communicate as you could go too far when in this headspace.  I don't think either of us noticed at the time we were doing these things but his sores aren't that bad and will heal quickly enough.

I had my husband take some pictures of the leftovers from our session Thursday.  Besides showing that he needs to shave his hair again, it was to show you the sores from our fun on Thursday.  His nipples were very sore.  Where last time there was crusting around the tip, this time it was one mark right in the center - not so bad at all.  He said it hurt the most of all of them but it is difficult to see.

The next two pictures show the rawness from me jerking him dry that day for about an hour and a half.  Right under the head is where it looks like the skin tore.  The pictures don't show it as well as in person but the mark on the right is pretty deep and red.  I think the lighting doesn't show that too good.

Because of all of this, he is going to have to go without touches until his cock is healed.  I suppose I can tease him using his perineum and ass/prostate but he is going to have to wait to have a real orgasm because of this.  As we are getting close to Christmas, he may have to wait a bit longer as it gets harder and harder to find alone time as we do everything to get ready for the holiday.

Since he is out of commission for a little bit while he heals, I told him last night that tonight he can go down on me as he has been asking for over and over again.  I think it is only fair to let him do what he has asked for so much given what I did to him.  On top of it, I am still a bit bothered from our session on Thursday and could use the attention.

This is his longest period ever without an orgasm.  I'm curious to see how he will react to it.  So far, he is very attentive and really the gentleman.  

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The Wife Was in Control Today

Today I had a nice play date with my husband.  I had him strip and I fiddled with him for about an hour and a half.  He was on edge for most of that time.  I really tormented his nipples, cock and balls.  I'm sure that his nipples are sore and balls full.  Even better, I promised him more tomorrow.  After that, he will have to wait for a bit as I don't think we will be alone until the following week.  I know I have said it before but I get off a lot on teasing him and watching him squirm.  He even rubbed me to an orgasm through my stretch pants in only a minute or so.  That was a first with us.  Watching him react to my touches and knowing how much he wanted to orgasm gets to me big time.  Many times he teetered on the brink but was able to hold it back. 

His kissing was very good today.  I can feel the desire in him with each kiss.  While kissing him, I either pinched his nipples very hard to see how he would react or stroked his cock.  It became clear after a while when I took him into pain or to the brink of orgasm.  Watching and feeling him struggle is such a sexy rush.  

I'm feeling generous so no cage for him until the day after Thanksgiving.  We will be around each other and I can tell in only a few seconds if he has done anything given his current state of arousal. 

PS: I so love this, can any of you think of things he can add to this as a Christmas gift? 

Sunday, November 21, 2010

He is still waiting

My husband is going to find out when he reads this that he might need to wait another week for a chance to orgasm again.  See, he has to drive somewhere tomorrow morning for a meeting.  If he gets home fast enough, he will have alone time with me before our child comes home.  If not, then Tuesday I am busy all day and our child has a half day - no chance there. Wednesday, same thing plus getting ready for the holiday.  That means we wouldn't be alone again until the Monday after the holidays. 

So, hopefully he reads this before he leaves and then gets home quickly.  If not...

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Took him to the Top

I was going to let my husband orgasm yesterday but when the time came, he couldn't.  He will tell the story from his side later.  After giving me a very nice massage and pleasures with the jackhammer massager, I turned the machine on him.  I used the massager all over his caged genitals.  I loved watching him squirm and struggle to orgasm while in it.  He couldn't but I kept doing it.  I really love seeing him cum in the cage - it is so hot to me.  At one point, I pinched his scrotem with the massager and the cage ring and he started to bleed.  This ruined my plan.  He said it didn't hurt but it was becoming just too big a mess so I sent him to the bathroom to take off the cage and clean up.  When he returned, everything looked fine with just a little cut and everything very red from the teasing.

I decided he deserved an orgasm and was taking him to the top.  The thing is that when he started to cum, virtually nothing came out - like only a few drops.  I tried keeping the massager to his penis but he was ultra sensitive and couldn't bear the stimulation.  He was saying that he was so excited that he couldn't cum.  But he did, I told him.  He seemed really upset that he came as he said he didn't feel anything but the intensity that he said was nothing like an orgasm.  Being the nice person that I am, I'm not going to force him to reset the timer - really, it doesn't matter, well it might to him but to me it doesn't matter.  As long as I control and am present for all of his orgasms, that is all that matters.

With that little cut, I'm letting him stay out of the cage this weekend.  This is now his uncaged chastity time.  

Friday, November 19, 2010

As we come (or not) into the weekend

My husband is back from his travels.  He had a bit of a cold when he got back so I decided to let him rest yesterday as opposed to teasing him or doing anything.  Both he and my daughter have been suffering from a little cold - which I got today.  I had planned on doing some serious teasing today although he now may be too busy to be available.  If that is the case, he is going to have a hard time finding alone time with me.  I think Tuesday could be the only day over the next two weeks. So maybe he will get some attention today or tonight but will possibly need to wait a while longer.  I just looked at the clock on here and noticed that he is at 30 days.  How time flies when you are busy and having fun.

As for me, he has done a great job massaging my feet and legs since getting home.  He wants to touch more but I've had him wait.  I'm going to go take a nap and see if I am up to it before we have our child and her friend here this weekend.  More later on today for you.

I see that most of you didn't like my last poll.  I'll try and think of a better one next.  As for my big toenails, they are short but looking normal again.  Maybe I will have him paint them and you all can tell me if they are "ready" for him to squirt on for you.

Monday, November 15, 2010

For Parents, Wifes and Dommes

Okay Dommes, wives and parents, I found a new way to track My child and husband. It is life360 - a free app for iPhone. This started out as a way to find sexual criminals in our neighborhood. What we found it does besides that is track any cell phones we register. That means that I can see where my husband is when away from home. His phone is now set up to send a signal to me about every 10 minutes. For some odd reason, my phone has to be done manually. Maybe I have too old an iPhone for it to work. Our child has a testing phone and it works the same as his.

There are spying apps that cost $99 a year but I that seems like a waste of money for us.

Women, if you think your husband isn't being faithful, you can see all texts, emails and phone logs. Now I know some will say they don't need that or chastity. Good for you. For those of us who like control, these are all ways to maintain it. My interests are well shown here. The chastity builds his desire and I get my kink. For those in less secure relationships, these are options to build confidences or catch the lying partner. 

As many Dommes may agree, whether you use the tracking device or not, it is a good way to enforce their position when away from  you.  Having them in a cock cage does this too.  Different strokes for different folks. 

I hoped this helped a few of you whether it is for how I use it or to track your kids.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Had a Saturday night alone

Last night, I had a night alone with my husband.  We were staying at a hotel next to a gentleman's club.  No, we did not go in to it.  I'm sure he would have liked that but those places are not for me.  Instead, we stayed in.  My stomach was not feeling the best.  It might have been from the combination of red wine, lime Patron gelato and too much food.  As we lay in bed, I did not want any attention although I was next to him naked.  I eventually had him strip and worked on his nipples for a long time.  The left one was a bit crusty from all the play I had done earlier in the week.  So I worked on the right one more than the left while watching "Saturday Night Live".  I had him take off his sweatpants and proceeded to play with his chastity cage.  No, I did not let him out.  I would tease him during the commercial breaks and stop during the show...except for the skits that were really awful.  It is surprising how the show gets worse as it goes on through the night.  As the show was ending, I became pinching and biting his nipples hard trying to get him to ask for me to stop.   He took it but was making lots of noises, moving around a lot and either breathing hard or not breathing at all.

He leaves on a business trip at like 4am in the morning tomorrow and doesn't get back until very early Thursday morning.  I'm sorry that I wasn't feeling up to doing more when we were alone but he will get another chance at the end of the week.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Day After

My husband seemed to be looking for a little attention today.  As I didn't sleep all that well last night, I told him no.  He could massage my feet and legs but no fooling around today as I needed to rest.   I asked him how he felt after yesterday's relief.  He told me that he was hornier than ever.  Good.  The bulge in his pants despite the cage proved that.

There is an outside chance that we may have a night alone either Friday or Saturday night but if that is shaky at best.  As such, he might not have a chance to get out of the cage until about a week from now as he will be travelling much of next week.  When he travels, he is in the cage.  I'm still thinking about the fun yesterday.  It was so exciting to see that.  I think I am beginning to understand the mental part of this now.  Even though he should be relaxed after yesterday, he isn't.

By the way, Happy Veteran's Day to all of those people who protect us.  I hope you are all home soon.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

The Oddest Ruined Orgasm

After he gave me a wonderful massage and about four orgasms this morning, I turned the massager on him.  He was still in the CB-6000 while I did this.  First it was on the area under the balls for about 3 minutes and then on the pelvic area for about 2 minutes.  At this point, he said he felt an orgasm coming on.  I stopped.  What happened here surprised me.  He kept grunting and moaning.  His need to orgasm seemed to pass.  Then one drop escaped the tip about 30-45 seconds after I stopped.  I thought, 'I'm good'.  He had the ruined orgasm in the cage.  At that point he started to moan a bit again and a larger amount oozed out of the head.  I thought that was it but it wasn't.  Now it's been well over a minute and closer to two minutes since stimulation stopped.  This is where it got really interesting.  Very liquidy semen just kept oozing out.  Enough to fully cover his lower stomach.  I'd say it was the equivalent of a large orgasm.  It kept happening for the better part of a minute and even after that a few more bits escaped.

For me, it was wildly erotic to watch this.  He had no control over what was happening.  And the volume was amazing.  I guess he was horny.  He said that it wasn't the same as a real orgasm but I think it looked like it was better than a real one.  Those only last a short time while this lasted even longer.

I'd love to hear if this has happened to anyone else.  I'm counting this as a ruined orgasm and not a real one although I could be convinced otherwise.  I mean as he released, it was just a bubbling out with no real force.  He was talking to me saying things like I don't know what is happening and I can't stop it.  A regular conversation and not the type that you might have in the middle of an orgasm.

Monday, November 8, 2010

Teases and Squirms

Since a number of people have been asking for pictures of me, here is a little bit.  I'm not comfortable putting my face on here so a see through blouse will have to do for the moment.  I will have the foot pictures taken next which might be my husband's first chance at release and relief - we will see.  So many of you want to see pictures of him spilling his orgasm on my toes and maybe shoes where he also cleans things up with his tongue that I will just have to do it as soon as I can.  That is still about a week to ten days away though.  I'm sure he is hoping for something sooner.  Again, we will see.

Today, I had a lot of fun teasing him.  The details are on his side of the blog.  I don't know why but I just really enjoy watching him squirm - at first in pleasure and then in pain.  I'm not angry - I just enjoy it.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Feeling Better

Feeling much better this morning.  I think a stressful situation at my child's school went to my stomach.  I've had problems with my stomach in the past so whenever I get stressed or ill, it goes to my stomach. 

So cumming on my toes won the poll.  As the toenail needs to grow a little bit more before they look right for photographs, he will either need to wait for that or I will do something else in the mean time.  When the time comes to do that, I will take photos of all of it and post them here.  I know I've been talking about it for a few months but the nail problem really delayed it.  Also, he doesn't exactly get a lot of orgasms.

We will have some alone time during the day this coming week.  We leave for a weekend with my eldest daughter daughter Friday for three days and he has to drive somewhere for business for two of the days this week so he will have a limited chance at relief.  I will surely tease him but taking it further - we will have to see.

I know that I haven't been writing the sexiest posts for you all the last week or two, I've asked him to retell a story from the past on his side of the blog.  I know he is working in the yard a bit today so we will see when he gets a break to write it for you.

Friday, November 5, 2010

Husband home

Haven't been feeling well the last two days.  I'm not sure if it is the flu or just stomach problems but I have been resting.  My stomach feels and looks like a gas balloon.  Is there a doctor on the blog?  Actually, I will see a doctor on Monday if I still feel like this.

As for my husband, I saw that he wrote up what I could do with him today.  That was fun to do with him.  Watching him try to talk while I twist his nipples is fun.  He has such a hard time staying focused.  You think that he could handle two things at once.

His behavior has definitely improved with the orgasm denial.  I enjoyed getting his motor running but leaving the car in the garage.  This is why men can't orgasm too often - they lose that loving feeling that we like.  His kisses are far more passionate.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Friday alone with him for the morning

In a twist of schedules, we will have Friday morning alone. As he gets in about 1am that morning, we have much of that school day alone. What shall I do with him? I don't think he is reading this as he is on the road without a computer and busy from morning on in meetings. Would love to here your devious thoughts.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Husband away for a few days

He left on business early this morning. Despite airports, he was in his chastity cage. When men travel is when they need this most. While I know he won't cheat with another woman, I'm sure he would with his hand. As I have said before, most relationships would be stronger if the men had no ability for sexual gratification without their wives or girlfriends. It forces them to be more considerate than their natural state. For many women, their husbands cheat and there is no way to know it. This solves that worry completely.

This will be some nice quiet personal time before holiday season starts. As he is narrowing down the job search and should have something soon, I have faith that this holiday season will bring much to be thankful for.

Reminder that he is on yahoo im. Feel free to message him with questions, comments or torments.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

The Current Poll and Sunday

Home early and much to my surprise, the house was in order.  I had thought that between my husband, child and animals, it would be a mess.  Surprisingly, no.  I'm sending my husband out with her for trick or treating later today at a friend of her's house.  This will give me some nice time alone at home and a little time to do laundry and such. 

Looking at the early votes on the latest poll, I might need to do a second poll to see why "other" is winning.  (Update: An orgasm in the cage is now in the lead.) If you all have ideas, please post them here.  If I do a 2nd poll, I might need to make him wait yet another week.  I'll probably do that anyway.  That seems to be the general consensus on here - he needs to wait an awful lot longer.  I agree.  I've had one person that said that I should have him orgasm until he asks for no more and then keep him without for a long time.  All of the ideas are very interesting to me.  The problem is that I like using his cock.  I suppose I can use a strap on that he wears but I enjoy having it ready for my purposes whenever I want it.  As I can tell from when I got home, he is so much more attentive when he is made to wait for sexual relief.

Friday, October 29, 2010

Home on Sunday

I'll be getting home on Sunday afternoon.  My daughter is learning how to be a mom.  I'm surprised at just how little prepared that she was for all of what parenthood entails.  She had the room and clothes all set but for things like how to diagnosed a collicky baby and what to do, she was totally unready.  I had given her books months ago.  She is finally getting around to reading them.  

I will have one day on Monday with my husband alone.  I'm interested in your thoughts as to what, if anything, that I should do.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Baby Girl!

Not a "sexy" post but I know a number of people wanted to hear this:

Well, it happened very early this morning.  My eldest daughter had her baby.  Except for an hour here or there, I've been up since yesterday.  Just going to bed.  The baby is the most beautiful little girl.  Born at just under 9 pounds, she was 21.5 inches long with big lungs and lips.

I will be with her for the next week or so.  I may leave posts to my husband for the rest of the week.

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Baby Time and IMs

Either late tonight or more likely tomorrow, my older daughter is having her baby.  I'll be with her all week.  Husband will either be at home or on the road during that time locked tight.  Everything is plastic so getting through airport security isn't an issue.  The hardest part is our little one will have to stay with friends for a few days.

I know this post isn't sexy like what most of you are looking for but a number are interested in these more personal items.  I'll see what I can do in posting this week.  Yahoo IM works on my iPhone so that isn't an issue.  I think I can do updates on here too but without pictures.

My husband's posts should be interesting as he will be on the road caged.  Feel free to tease him if you like.   Actually, I like that idea.  He logs on Yahoo IM as - it's an odd new email at Yahoo - ymail.  He will do it at minimum every night at 10pm eastern/7pm pacific time.  Check your local listings ;)

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Night with the Girls

I will be going out tonight enjoying a night with the girls as one of them is having a birthday.  Drinks and sushi.   I had planned on being with my eldest daughter having her child but they are now waiting until Monday to induce.  Just found out a few hours ago.  While I'm doing that, my husband can help our child with a report for school.  You may remember that we had wanted to go to a BDSM Halloween party but on such short notice and the possibility that I might need to travel on a few hours notice, that isn't a possibility.

As for my husband, he will be traveling next week for a few days.  He has the cage on.  It is plastic so I doubt any problems with the planes.  If they do a body scan and see it, he will just need to explain things.  

Friday, October 22, 2010


Well, did a little tease of my hubby yesterday.  I played with his cage and pinched his nipples until I thought he might wince.  He took it like a man.  After about ten minutes of that, I had him rub my legs and feet.  I love that.

Just a few minutes ago, we talked about our schedules over the next few weeks.  Unfortunately, we will have very little time together.  Either he is away from home, I'm with my older daughter for her pregnancy or we are not alone.  That is at least the next 14-20 days.   Even though he orgasmed earlier this week, he has been in the cage for two weeks straight.  That means at least a month solid and a few airports with it on.

He is already squirming.  Poor baby.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

See if you can explain this...

See if you can explain this to me - my husband had a very nice orgasm two days ago while in the cage.  Today he is hornier than ever, trying to do anything I want.  Give or getting an orgasm seems to be pre occupado his mind.  I tease him a little this morning and then sent him on his way.  More tomorrow, I said.  He reminded me that he is in meetings all day tomorrow.  I guess that rules things out until next week...although I will tease him while in the cage - he has no need to be out.

Now next week, I expect to be with my daughter having the baby - maybe even this weekend.  That takes us to the following weekend when he would be around all of us.  The week after that, he might need to be out of town for most of the week on business.  And then that following weekend, we are at a friend's house.  I'm looking at the calendar and he might need to wait until the second week of November...maybe longer.  That dawned on him making him even more desperate for attention.  But after an orgasm only Tuesday, it seems too soon, no?

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Husband Caged Orgasm

Well, yesterday my husband gave me the most pleasant of orgasms.  At the start, I wasn't that interested and had him use the massager aka the jackhammer for its intended use - deep tissue massage of my legs.  After some of that, I moved it higher and had a very satisfying orgasm.  From there, I used it on him.  He was in the cage while I massaged the area under his balls.  He enjoyed it but it was clear that it would not be enough to make him orgasm.  I then moved it to the pelvis area just above the cage and went to work again.  In not too long, he was giving me a warning that he was going to cum.  I didn't stop.  After what looked and sounded like the start of an orgasm and nothing coming out, all of a sudden, he erupted and it shot out like a cannon over and over.  It was something to see.  Probably one of the biggest messes he has ever made.  I then smiled at him and reminded him of how talented I am.  He agreed completely.

That whole thing made me horny again after losing some of my interest over the last week because he was busy.  Today though, both of us had a bit to do and I couldn't act on my desires.  There is always Wednesday though.

As for the baby watch, she went to the doctor and they will wait for as long as this week and then decide if nothing happens.  The baby is very healthy.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

A House of Kids

Not actually a whole house but about eight.  I am just tired from the playing and screaming and shrieking...and it wasn't even my husband making all of those noises!  Then to end the day, the indoor cat got outside.  As we have coyotes in the area, we don't like to leave him out as we've lost two.  After two hours of looking, we gave up.  As my husband was going to shut off all the lights, who does he see lounging on the back deck?  The cat.

Off to bed.  I'd like to tell you that I'm going to tease the shit out of him but I don't think so.  As for my older daughter - nada.  Today was the due day but she didn't want to come out yet.  Maybe tomorrow.  If so, I'll have my husband do the posts here while I'm out of town.

He put Yahoo IM on my iPhone.  Wifekeyholder if you ever want to send a note.  Email is

PS: Very happy to hear from other couples thinking to get into this.  If you want to but are afraid to tell your wife (I know who is reading this), tell her to read about our experiences.  Start at the beginning.  This is a fun way to strengthen your marriage.  Along the way, she might find that she just happens to get off on it like me and so many others.

PPS: We are closing in on 250,000 page reads since we started this six months ago.  I don't know what to say but 'thank you' for showing interest in us.  We've met some amazing people online and in real life because of this.  That was the hope.  Thank you again.  Who knows where this is leading.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

He is Locked Up for What May be a While

Between his work and my child on half days because of parent teacher conferences, there has been just no time to play.  With my elder daughter likely to have hers in a day or two, I will be out of town for about 5 days with her.  As soon as it happens, I'm off to see her and the addition to the family.  Since he has been too busy to receive the fun I had in store, he will just have to wait for at least two weeks, I think.

As for the Halloween Party, I am supposed to be back the day before the party assuming the baby comes on time.  With such a momentous things coming to our lives, if we can make the party, great.  If not, we will just have to wait.  I think we will know more over the next couple of days.  

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Will Wednesday be Hump Day?

No posts the last few days as my laptop does not have Explorer anymore.  It seems an emoticom thing I downloaded killed the program.  Any ideas how to get it back up and running?  I'm using the desktop now but that is not the one I like to use.  Anyway, this week has been slow.  On Saturday, I had my husband put things in and I did the Yahoo IM from my iPhone but since then he has been working on presentations and had really no time.  As these are all to make money, this is where I step back from being the Domme and let him do his work.  He says Wednesday won't be as bad as most of his work is out although he still has more.

I think I told everyone that I have a daughter from another marriage when I was VERY young.  She is expecting her first child this Saturday.  I thought it would come earlier but the baby is being stubborn.  As it is a girl, you wonder where that comes from.  This will be an exciting moment for us.  Now it could interfere with the kinky Halloween party that I want to go to but there is no question which I would do first.  As the baby is due seven days before the party and I don't plan on being with my daughter for more than two or three days, I don't think it will conflict although you never know.

More tomorrow...

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Friday night

Well, we didn't have as long a fun as I wanted to as my husband didn't get back from a business meeting until 10pm.  He had to drive 2 1/2 hours away to make a presentation to a Board of Directors after the close of business.  Hopefully, he and his business partners land the job as it would pay them all like highly priced lawyers and give him the time to get the money raised to start his own company.

With that as the backdrop, I took him to the brink of orgasm for a while and then had him get a break and service me.  I then restarted on him taking him to a ruined orgasm where one drop of cum sneaked out of him about 30 seconds after I stopped touching him.  From there, I jumped on top of him and rode him to a very fulfilling climax for both of us.  I had thought the ruined orgasm would take the edge off and let him be hard in me longer.  Alas, no, he lasted but not as long I would have wanted ideally.  It was still good, don't get me wrong.  With that, we went to sleep.  There was no time for anything the next morning as our child needed to get home from the sleepover.

Today has been a pretty lazy day for me.  Other than a little cooking and cleaning, jumped in the pool.

I'm still thinking of Halloween outfits for the party.  One suggestion was that if I am a witch, make him up to be a black cat.  I had thought of a broom but I'm not sure how you dress someone up as the broom you rode in on.  My husband thought he could be a mummy wrapped in bed sheet strips.  It was mentioned that an outfit like that might be difficult to keep on.  In thinking about that, that could be a good thing at a kinky Halloween party.

Anyhow, more over the next few days.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Without child tonight

Here is something that just kicked my energy into a higher gear - we will be alone for the evening.  I've told my husband to drink a lot of coffee today and he will be kept up late.  I have many thoughts and ideas in my head but I'm not going to say them here as he reads all of this.  He will find out tonight and you all will find out tomorrow.

It will be wicked fun.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Feeling Low Energy This Week

It's odd, this was the week I was planning on doing a lot of playing with my husband as well as starting a diet.  Seems like neither has happened.  My energy and motivation is low.  Somehow, I need to reenergize it.

Husband has been very busy all week which is good.  Sometimes I wonder how he works on so many things at once.  That has meant that he has not had much time for our play many days while our child is away.  Even if he was, I'm not sure it would have changed the way that I have felt this week.

So I am going to try and think of a way to keep you all interested in the blog while I'm getting things going again.  If you have ideas, I am all ears.  If you want to hear about anything in specific over here, drop me a note, post here or message me at yahoo im which you can do on the sidebar here.