Friday, December 31, 2010
Thursday, December 30, 2010
|Odd statue in Oxford, UK|
So it makes three days in a row he thought he might get a little time. With children and life, it is what it is. Maybe if I told him he had to wait a few weeks, he would be getting less worked up. Let's see how tomorrow goes.
He is all worked up. What to do? Wait is about all that he can do...and give me foot rubs.
|This is another view of the statue|
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
|Husband in Birdlocked|
On a personal level, it would be nice to have some private time with him - hopefully we can figure out some schedule where we are alone. As we are regularly interrupted at night, I'm not sure where we will find the alone time.
I see how using the strap-on is what the most of you want to see next. I really thought the foot pics would win. I haven't had a chance to talk to him about this but I am guessing that he isn't thrilled with the vote. He should be happy cuckolding didn't win. I know I am as I am not ready to consider that.
What else? Oh, his CB-6000 broke again. I'll leave it for him to describe what happened. I don't think those things are made for 24/7 use. I'm going to have him work on developing his more secure and durable chastity cage. This is ridiculous that it can't make four months without a problem. He has the Birdlocked on now. I know he isn't thrilled with it but after so long, I am not going to leave him unlocked. Men are just too weak to be trusted not to masturbate after so long without an orgasm. This doesn't look as secure but I know how to make sure that he hasn't done anything. After this long without, it is easy to tell.
I'll have him take a picture of it on as I can't find any pictures of it in use other than this one online.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
After presents in the morning, we got ready for some close friends coming over for dinner. Instead of the traditional turkey, ham or lamb, we had surf and turf. My husband surprised me with his cooking skills. As it was so unique, I won't post it hear (I saw he posted what he made on Facebook to his 400 "friends"). The short version is he made a soup and desert - both unique and something we will have many times in the future. Friends bought things to drink and gifts. In all, we had a wonderful time.
We will see about alone time in the not too near future. I would like to say sooner but it is tough to get alone time with a child at home. Hopefully, she will do a play date with a friend. This is my last week where he isn't working - after that he is back at it full-time. While I will miss having him around, it is good for our finances and his attitude to have a steady income.
What else? Maybe I will have him paint my toes in anticipation of the photo shoot. Right now that is neck and neck with using the strap-on on him. He will be getting both but the outcome of the poll will probably determine which happens first. I'm absolutely shocked that the cuckold choice is getting so many votes. I think we have a ways to go before I start doing that - if I ever do. It is funny though that people online who are much more knowledgable than me say that at some point it will be the natural progression of the relationship to involve others. I still don't see it but then again I didn't see more than half of what we are doing a year ago. In fact, I didn't see any of this.
For those of you wanting this with your other half, it can happen. Look at us...and it all happened in less than a year.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
|Kissing under the mistletoe anyone?|
I was thinking of mentioning those who have meant the most to me but I they know who they are. The encouragement, ideas and support to try things has been something special. Those who have followed from the start know that we have gone through ups and downs - the downs enough to destroy a weak union.
One was my spending problems that I still have trouble mentioning. I won't share specifics but I have learned a lesson that I won't forget soon.
Another big challenge was my husband's work situation. After he left there, we found out that the guy running the company was covering up all sorts of problems created by him and he attributes those problems to other people who he gets rid of. He professes to be religious but religious people who behave like that...well, I hope there is a special place for them. During that time another person senior to him found out that he knew that he was cheating on his wife with men at a skanky bar - not good for someone who pretends to love his wife and be squeaky clean. I can't even mention what occurs in that bar it is so gross. I don't wish bad for anyone but I hope the bad people get what they deserve.
In the New Year, he has a promising new job. It's less money but it is still has much upside. The good thing is that he is competing with his old job. Let's hope he can take their best clients.
While we won't have the free income of the past, we are blessed by those of you who are supporting us here. 2011 is an exploration for us in so many ways. My goal will be to get into "photo ready" shape. Don't expect that fast as all of the stresses of this year will take a while to exercise off. For now, I will give you bits and pieces that I hope you find interesting.
Most importantly, I want to thank my husband for this wonderful journey. The few who really know me on here know that he has to clean up my English for many of these posts. So I dictate or write a first draft and then he will come on and fix things up.
Everyone have the best of holidays. I think 2011 will hold good things for those of us who are true to our selfs. To our knowledge, we live only once on this Earth and we need to make the most of it.
Kisses to all of you. Merry Christmas.
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
How to start?
If your wife shows no interest and you are afraid to bring it up, you have a couple of options. One is to introduce her to me on here. Tell her that you ran across a website where a relationship that had problems became stronger when the wife took control of what happen in the house while the man controlled the outside. That means he is strong and hard working to the outside world but at home he is mine. Your wife needs to know that you masturbate when not around her and that she needs to take ownership of your cock. Whether you have my blog make that point or a chat session or maybe an honest conversation will get you going down the road.
However you do it, you need to let her know that you want to be more connected with her. This means that you have obligations to her and her to you. Start small. Don't go for everything at once. Introduce this as a game for a weekend and let her know how much closer you felt because of it. Show her extra attention while playing. Then try it for a week. She will soon prefer the way you respond to her MORE when she controls your orgasms then when she doesn't.
With the start in a small way that doesn't scare her SLOWLY add longer time to the small things. Don't add more things yet. Just get her comfortable with the simplest ones.
After this, get her to read on things or chat to people like me. There are many places for that. Collarme.com is one. Alt.com is another. Many like Fetlife.com.
The next step will be having friends in the lifestyle. This is about where I am now. I am just getting to the point where I could go to a club or gathering to watch things going on.
The main thing here is that you need to be honest and have a good conversation with her. Don't be a wuss. In a good relationship, you both need to open up. Be smart about when you share it. Do it when playing in bed maybe. Remember not to overwhelm and scare her. Start small...unless she is wilder or more open than most.
For the single men,
You need to first be comfortable with dating. Confidence in yourself is important. I don't want my man to be a door mat. I want him to be strong and submit to me his sex. That is more erotic than a wuss who says 'yes Maam' 'no Maam' and isn't a real person. If that is you, I personally would get tired of having such a weak man. The allure is getting a powerful man to change when alone with you - at least it is for me.
After you get comfortable with yourself and feel confident that you don't give off a creepy feel (trust me, many of you do), start meeting people. Creative types are typically more open. Go to meetings if you can do that. That isn't me. It seems the best place for people of similar interests to meet is online. So chat with lots of people and meet. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.
With all of this, a sense of humor helps and good personal hygiene. Don't be an Adam Sandler type - try for the more charming types like Craig Ferguson.
If you have questions, you can always email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or Yahoo IM at wifekeyholder.
I hope this helps.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
|Roisin Murphy in the holiday spirit|
As far as serious play time, we may have time alone on the Tuesday before the house is overrun with family and friends beginning Wednesday. Maybe he can take a shot at painting my toenails. I'll need to think of a few things that he can do for me even if I can torment or play with him.
Friday, December 17, 2010
I have an interesting follower on here. A younger guy about 28. He and his wife are separated with a 2 year old. She is abusive toward him verbally. Clearly she has a lot of anger - it might be because they were both too young to have a kid. He is equally selfish just thinking about his feelings and orgasms. I've offered to mediate but he won't go for it because they are too far gone. I told him how we were in the same boat for years but were committed enough to our daughter, if not each other, to work things out. Now things seem better than any point in our relationship. What I can't figure out is why young people have kids when they aren't ready for it and then bail at the first sign of problems. They are both immature it seems but need to set aside their problems to think about the little girl who didn't ask for any of this. His wife sounds like the perfect Domme if he can work on finding the root of her anger.
Anyhow, I wrote that as he wants me to control his orgasms and speak rather harsh toward him. Makes little sense to me. It seems his wife was doing that through frustration. Maybe I should start a marriage counseling service.
Not the normal post and not one to get you hard but these are just random bits of life. Hopefully, I will have something hotter for you over the weekend.
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Anyhow, he seems to be reacting very nicely to my touches. He must like my control and the way this turns me on too. I know he does as you all do given all we have written on here.
Short post but I want to try and get more on here and not make it so long without refreshes. He hasn't posted in a while but I expect him to tomorrow. I am looking forward to his posts on the things of the last week.
Monday, December 13, 2010
|Perfect blouse for the holidays|
With the holidays on us, it is amazing how the hours in the day just disappear. Before we know it, it will be 2011. Amazing. It seemed like the 1990 not too long ago.
I got no ideas from any of you kinksters on holiday gifts. Take a break from jerking off and send me a note on what a good gift might be. Email is email@example.com. Ciao for now. Mas manana.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Had some play time with my husband on Thursday. He coated his cock with emla creme for a few hours while I was getting a 90 minute massage down the street. When I came back, I was ready to put him to good use. After giving me a few orgasms by hand and machine, it was time to put him to work. The problem was that he put so much on that it had zero feeling which meant it was hard to keep it erect. I couldn't find the cock rings so this made him tough to use. He was able to keep it up for a missionary position fucking of me. That felt great and brought me to another orgasm.
The think that I didn't like was that all of the thrashing and squirming that I usually get out of him didn't happen as he couldn't feel anything. I even put the vibrator on its strongest setting and he was numb to it. The idea of a little less sensitivity is good but even with a cock ring, this isn't as fun for me. With a cock ring though, he would really be a meat puppet and could go all night long so I guess it has its uses.
I was a bit to strong with him that day and the next the underside of his cock had a big tear near the head. In giving him extra time out of the cock cage, he is not as horny as when I leave it on him. While I know he hasn't taken matters into his own hands, his desire level seems to be lower when I don't lock him up. He thinks it is more related to work related matters. As I mentioned before, he accepted a job the other day but is still working on two other projects that want to hire him. I won't bore you all with this but it all distracts him a lot. None pay the cash we want but each could be great long term if the jobs work out as expected.
I will have more to chat about later - we are making cookies for a bake sale today.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
|Jolie's S&M series|
On Monday, my husband was on the road all day so not much of a chance to do anything with him then. On Tuesday, I wanted to have a little fun with him but he was getting ready for a day of meetings that was today. Today he had those meeting and fortunately landed a job. It has a base pay lower than what we are used to but great upside if the business is successful. The most important thing is that it is an income stream after six months without one.
As for me, I had one of my best months selling things on eBay - I've made $1,000 already this month and hope to make another $1,000 before it is over.
Now for tomorrow, I expect to get some play time with him. Same on Friday. I don't have any idea what I will do but you'd better believe that he need to control himself better. I have some ideas on how to do that but will not say that on here until after the play time is done.
For the foot fetish people, I am about ready to do the foot pictures. Getting those nails looking right has taken a long time. They are not perfect yet but they are close. It seems to have taken forever for them to get back to normal. For those of you who do not remember, a pedicure gave me nail infections in both big toes. I lost the nails and it took forever for them to grow back.
What else? The New Year's Resolution for everyone in this house is to get in better shape and lose weight. I was going to do it sooner but that takes a bit.
Oh, I think I found the coolest Christmas gift at Brookstone - a pen that records video and sound for two hours. It can be placed anywhere and records what is in its vision. You then just open it up and and plug it into your computer and watch the video and recharge it. Price is $79 which seems inexpensive for such a cool spying device. Your child can have it on them to record bullies or bad teachers. You can record a baby sitter. I'm sure some would spy on a spouse on the computer. The uses seem endless and fun.
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Friday, December 3, 2010
After Tuesday's play, both myself and my husband's sex drive remained high. On Thursday after he teased out an orgasm in me, I began teasing him. He was over me on the coach while I pinched his nipples and fiddled with his cock. His arms were balance on the back of the couch and arm rest so to give me some space to work with. I told him how Thursday was a tease and Friday would be the day we have old fashioned lovemaking. I guess the teases and foreplay were too much and he came all over my clothes even though I had stopped teasing him. Of course, this meant Friday was off.
A friend online gave me a great idea for next time. Milk him by a prostate massage before sex and then engage him in it. The funny thing is that I had told him that I knew he wouldn't last long and that he should cover his cock in the emla creme that morning before we play so that we can wash it off for when we play. That way he will be able to last.
Anyhow, I'm not very pleased with him for ruining my fun. He still seems at a higher level of need but not like a week ago. Hell, he orgasmed twice this week!
PS: For the feet people, I know I have been promising foot pictures with him. The growth of my large nails is going slow. While the shape is about back, the nail itself isn't ready for painting. I don't want to take pictures for the internet for all time and have them look bad. Anyhow, patience and I will get you good pictures.