When Child is Away, the Parents Play?

Our child is away for the day.  There is even a chance that we may have a full night alone.  That is a rarity around here.  I'll update this post as the day/night develops. 

Hotel tonight

Off for an evening without the little one about two hours from home.  She will be staying with a friend about a mile from the hotel that we will be staying at.  Too bad that I am having my monthly visitor.  Visits at the worst times.  Anyhow, it will be nice to have a night alone for a change. 

This is probably when I will take some of those pictures I have been meaning to.  A nice shot of his cock and my feet seems like fun.  If you all can think of anything else you want, please tell me.

In general, we have been at a bit of a lull lately - my apologies as it doesn't make for the best posts.   He has been working hard at his job while I have been working to get my diet going.  I'll post updates on Sunday with hopefully those pics I've been bad at getting for a while.

Husband's Relief

Melody and Paul Wedina (1988)

I gave him a little relief yesterday.  You can go to his side of the blog if you want the details.  I don't think an orgasm while half erect and caged and struggling to let the cum out is what he was hoping for but he got some relief which is what he wanted.  I had lots of fun plans for this weekend but now I have my monthly visitor.  That doesn't mean we still can't have fun - it will just need to adjust a little bit which is not what I wanted.  Such is life.  It will be nice to have a night alone with him though.

What is in Store this Week?

Up WAY too early today.  Our house cat got out and I couldn't really sleep until my husband found him around 5:30am this morning. 

He says that he is coming home for lunch today (husband, not cat).  Hopefully we can do something then.  We should be without child Saturday night so at least a few fun days are coming.  Whether he does or not is another question.   In general, I find that my interest in sex goes down the longer I go without and goes up the more I get.  I know he has been trying to get my interest up but the diet had me feeling off.  I've dropped off the diet for a week and will be restarting soon enough.

Need Your Opinion

I'm curious what you think about my husband sub's body.  I think it is fine and he just needs to build muscle.  He thinks he should lose another 5-10 pounds.  I'm going to put up a poll.  I would like your honest thoughts.  Thanks.

Blown Blow-Jobs and Life

Well, the seven days of blowjobs didn't work out as expected.  While that was the plan going into the seven days, schedules, diet and life got in the way.  Today, I was hoping to do the foot shot but he got stuck in meetings and didn't make it home before our child.  Some made good comments that I didn't fulfill my anniversary gift.  Sorry to say but life gets in the way. 

I think we will try again next week.  I'm letting him stay out of the cage for a bit longer - he isn't travelling anywhere so that is fine.  I will put him back soon enough but not immediately. 

As for diets, I was queasy this week getting used to things.  I've lost almost twenty pounds so far.  Sadly, I'm still a few pounds more than my husband - that will be fixed very soon.  I should be about 35-40 below him.  I think a mix of boredom, stress from his job situation for most of last year and my natural compulsiveness were what caused it. 

What else?  I'm watching my newborn granddaughter tonight and tomorrow.  She is the cutest.  Not very sexy to most of you but this is also part of the happiness of life. 

Thank You!

I don't know how to thank you enough for your interest and desire to follow our evolving FemDom Marriage.  I have learned from many of the ideas and suggestions given by those with more experiences or ideas that I would have never thought of or tried without your help.  In trying to think of a way to thank you and give you my own Valentine, I am thinking more pictures is a start.  Another way is to continue trying things new that you will find interesting.  I would do that anyway but the support system you provide is helpful.

On a personal note, I had some hair extensions that a friend and hair dresser gave me.  She put them in today.  Hopefully, you will see bits of it in future pictures.  The diet continues.  I started a week after my husband and will probably be on the diet for about four months.  For him, I think he can get where he needs to in half that time.  Of course, you will be seeing more pictures of him than me so you can judge for yourself soon enough.  Once the weight is off, the next part is increasing each of our tone.  That will mean a different challenge in lifting weights, stair machines and situps to name a few of the exercises.

Hopefully, we will have some quality alone time soon.  I know I need it.  Today he had a little time but I wasn't here.  Soon enough, I will get him to work.

Okay, here is today's music - Sade's "No Ordinary Love".  She is one of my favorites and the song speaks to the idea of all of our interests here:

Ruined Good

We had a little time alone this afternoon.  I was in the mood to tease him and give him a ruined orgasm.  I started by kissing him and twisting and pinching his nipples until he yelped in the hall.  Then I took him to the bedroom for a little more torment.  This is what he looked like as we got to the bedroom:

As you can see, the cage was doing its job while his body had other ideas. 

In the bedroom, I took out the massager - the one meant to loosen a tight back.  It is strong.  I proceeded to massage above and below the cage pressing hard.  He was struggling with the feelings.  He could feel good but he wasn't able to orgasm.  The area above the cage got rubbed raw and he started to struggle with the cage and begged me to let him out.  As that is what I wanted, him to beg like that, I agreed.  Here is a pic of this:

It's not the best picture but thos are red spots above the cage where the skin is raw.  The balls looked more purple than this photo shows.  Anyhow, the problem was that I couldn't find the key.  I really couldn't find it.  About 15 minutes later I located it.

By the way, this is a picture he took in the dark of me using the massager on him.  You really can't see much but it is a bit artsy so here you go:

Once the cage was off, I took him in my mouth for a minute.  He was on edge immediately.  I then kept only the tip of my tongue on the underside pushing it up toward him.  That was all it took and he started to orgasm.  Of course, I stepped away a few seconds before he started - not a far away from an orgasm as I usually do.  And with that, he fought it but was overtaken by the sensations and had a few contractions.  He wanted more touching but I think this was enough. 

For tonight, I'm letting him stay out of the cage as I probably stressed that area a bit too much while in the cage. 

With that, the day was over and I saw this beautiful sunset. 

More Strap-On Pics

Here are two more pictures of that nice fake cock.  Ladies, you really need one of these.  Men you want these as well to make sure that your woman is fulfilled.  Unless you can fuck like a machine, one of these need to be part of your toy collection.

You can almost see him under it.  Next is to find one that looks and feels more real.  One of the readers suggested Vixskin.  I looked them up online.  While they seem expensive, they look pretty realistic. 

I guess the cost of a good cock should be about $100.   Now if one was loaded with something to shoot, that could make it doubly fun - a cock that keeps on shooting and stays hard.  What a fun idea.

We may have some alone time tomorrow.  If so, who knows what is to happen next - I'm going to hold off on using the word cum for a little while.   I'm sure he isn't thrilled with that but it isn't time yet.  The readers all voted and I should get 20 orgasms before one for him and you all think that he needs to wait at least a month.  I thought the orgasm ratio should be higher too.  So I'm thinking he has a bit of a wait ahead of him.  Those orgasm on my toes pictures will have to wait.

Strap-Ons and Cages

Great feedback from a number of you over the use of the strap-on.  In general, many believe that I should leave his cock caged and use this from now on.  It is funny but I was a little unsure of the strap-on when I first saw it.  Having used it now, I must say that it is more satisfying than a man's cock as it doesn't have to stop after a short time because he is close.  I think one that has a more natural feel would be ideal.  This one is a little unrealistic.  Anyone have ideas on which one to use?

As for him, that Feeldoe with the harness looks like the way to go.  It would give me the feeling of having a real cock it seems.  As I thrust and withdraw, I would get lots of sensations as well.   Maybe I would be the one who needs to stop because I get too much stimulation.  We will need to try it and see.

With all of these toys that we are getting, I need a new place to put things.  We were using an old computer briefcase.  The key thing is finding a way to keep it from our child - I don't want her stumbling across it.  I'm already a bit nervous over her maturation and don't want to add to that.  It is nice that for two whole nights, she has not crawled into our bed.  The difference was moving the dogs to her bed.  It is like they are all having a sleepover.  Very cute. 

What else?  Oh, I have told him to get to work on his cock cage idea.  That seems like a way that I could make money.  If it is better than the CB cages and that poor Birdlocked one, I would think this could be my way of making some money and helping lots of women secure their men against masturbation and cheating.  When the day comes, a few of my sub men friends on here will need to try it to see if it is good.  Anyhow, I hope this is not just idle chatter from him.  The better mousetrap (or cocktrap) would be a good thing for all.

Strap-on Fun

I got a nice surprise this lunch time.  Before my husband had to leave town on business for an overnight stay, he came home, showered and packed.  I could tell that he was horny but I still didn't think we had the time to do much.  I took a little time to tease him by tweaking his nipples and massaging his uncaged area.  He was wanting the cage removed but I was having none of that.  He then offered to satisfy me.  I told him fine so long as he could do it without the use of the massager.  He asked if he could put on the strap-on to take the place of his caged member.  Thinking it over, I agreed.  I have a good picture of it on my iPhone that I will add to this post tomorrow. 

At this point, he oiled it up with Gun Oil and entered me.  The really nice part was that it vibrates too.  While in me, it was a bit too big.  Instead, I had him use it on the outside.  He brought me to two very nice orgasms.  I am thinking that I will need a bit more foreplay if I am to take that strap-on and enjoy it in me.  Anyhow, a while after that a bunch of pre-cum came out of the cage and down his leg.  Such fun.

Next time, I've told him, he will be on the receiving end of this strap-on.  He didn't think it was that big.  The best way to show him is through receiving it himself.  Don't you agree?  Anyhow, this idea of strap-ons is the perfect replacement to satisfying some of my needs while he is locked up.

Mishegoss

I just read my husband's post.  For the record, I am dictating this to him for publishing.  It is so nice to have a fast typing husband who can do this for me.  Anyway, the thing I want to say is that I want attention as much or more than him but I am not going to do a rush job.  When he is thinking work, he attentions are just not as strong as they need to be and I do not want to start something that he can't finish for a number of reasons including work.  I do not want to be competing with the clock or a cell phone call.  I want him to be all mine and I want his attentions all on me.  That seems fair, no?  Also, he has no business asking to be let out of the cage for any reason.  I will let him out when I want to. 

Right now,  I am focused on getting our child to not come into our bedroom just now.  I have no idea how long that will take but that will help quite a bit.  He may find he has a few sleepy days once we solve this problem. 

As for my anniversary present, I want an iPad but money is probably not there for it as he keeps repeating.  So what shall we do?  Looking it up in the guides, the tenth year used to be tin or aluminum.  He'd better not do that - unless of course it is the iPad - that is aluminum, yes?  The modern version is diamonds.  That is nice too but not likely given the difficulty of last year.

On other things, I have all of these guys online who want me to Domme them or bring them into my home or have a fling that my husband doesn't know about.  What to say about all of this?  First, if you have read my blog, a fling is not my thing.  Where is the pleasure for me in Domming a bunch of married guys who won't tell their wife's what they want?  That flies in the face of what I say everyday.  For the ladies reading this who have uncaged husband's, this is a great reminder that men with go to many lengths to live out their fantasies but not expose themself to you for fear of ridicule.  Here is how to solve that.  Play with their cock.  Get them good and excited.  Then start asking them for their deep, dark fantasies.  Probe deep.  Don't be satisfied with an answer that they think you will find okay.  Ask questions.  If they hold back, slow the play.  If they give good answers, keep playing.  You might just get the truth.

Anyhow for all of these cyberguys, some are very interesting to talk to who I learn a lot from - others are a challenge and wear me out.   When you approach someone with as much online content as me - read it.  Don't waste our time with what you want.  Think about who you are approaching and try to cater to them - not you.

Dinner Party Idea

Another fun fantasy of mine is to have a dinner party where all the women are dressed up and the men, well, they are wearing very little.  My husband could be in the kitchen with only a smock.  Another could be the waiter wearing only the bowtie.  If it is three couples, the third gives foot rubs as we chat.  How fun would that be? 

I think it would have to start with a cocktail and chat hour.  Hors d'eouvres served.  Champagne flowing.  The men serving us.  My husband slaving away in the kitchen.  After a bit of that, he brings out the plates and serves us.  It should probably be multiple courses of small portions.  A different wine for each dish.  After that, the women retire to lounge while the men clean up.  We are served desert and coffee. 

At this point, it seems like a good time for some performance art.  What to have them do?  Sing and dance?  No as men can't dance.  I'm not sure what we would do then.  Anyone have ideas?  Maybe the desert is served on them in the way Japanese men use a naked woman for sushi.   One of them could be shrink wrapped for sanitary reasons and we could place the different tastes all over him.  Looking at this picture though, a banana leaf cut up could do the same thing.   Have a few dipping sauces on there too - some whipped creme, melted caramel...maybe a fondue.  What a mess we'd make!


I will need to think about this one a little more.


PS: My husband thought of a fun Halloween Party - have the men go as the women and the women go as the men and do their best to stay in the character of their partner.  Doesn't that sound hilarious?

I Want More

You know, getting a little sex makes me want more.  Due to the holidays, that was one thing I wasn't getting either.  After Saturday, I want more but now I can't get it.  He is now working so he is away during the day.  Doing it alone is not the same.   As of tomorrow, our child is back at school and I want more.  We will see if he can come home for "lunch".   I think the thing we need to use is the strap-on but of him on me.  I think it is too soon to give him a second orgasm but the feeling of a cock is so mmm!  I know he would disagree with the too soon comment but that is why I am the one in charge.

Last night was interesting.  He had fixed the CB-6000 and put it back on.  He used a slightly smaller ring and struggled most of the night with the tighter size.  Finally around 4:30am, I got the key for him.  I find it amazing that just a little bit tighter caused him all sorts of problems and pain.   I've told him to write about it on his side of the blog.

That's it for now.  I know I owe you all some pictures.  We will do something soon.   As the strap on choice won, that is probably what will be done first.  Looking at the time to orgasm, I am sure that he is hoping that I don't listen to the poll.  We will see.

Without child tonight

Here is something that just kicked my energy into a higher gear - we will be alone for the evening.  I've told my husband to drink a lot of coffee today and he will be kept up late.  I have many thoughts and ideas in my head but I'm not going to say them here as he reads all of this.  He will find out tonight and you all will find out tomorrow.

It will be wicked fun.

Thursday Marathon

If you want to read the details of what I did with my husband today, go to his blog by clicking here.

About two hours after we were done, he sent me this picture of his caged friend by iPhone.  Don't you just love the nice deep red that he has?  Much nicer than that pale skin on his leg.  He should thank me because I got his circulation going good down there.

I'm not done either.  He needs more tomorrow.  The woman who we met in person gave me some good ideas in getting husband's to be the types we are looking for.  I won't say it here as someone is reading this who I don't want to know my plans.  Here is the thing that I think many people seem to do wrong in my mind.  There should be no milkings.  If you let them release the semen, they are not as on edge.  The ruined ones are nice because a little gets out and then the rest is dealt with by the body.  You also need to wait long enough on orgasms so that they learn what it means to be a good submissive husband.  Start with a week then ten days then two weeks.  Look at mine, I have him up to about a month between them.  So you know, I love the feel of him inside me but I think this makes everything between us more interesting.

As for my feelings on all of this, I think it is extremely hot to be able to tease your man and bring him pleasure in a way that he brings you even more pleasure.  It keeps the relationship close and him paying so much more attention to me.  If I just brush him or do the smallest tease, he is all over me.  That is the way I remember it when we were teenagers.  I recommend to women out there to try this and don't listen to their whining.  Eventually, they will be like mine and accept and enjoy the attention you are giving them.  Anyone reading this site desires that at some level.   Even today after nearly an hour of teasing and while I was teasing him I said to him that I thought that he liked what I was doing to him more than if I gave him an orgasm.  He agreed so I gave him even more teasing.

Another great thing that has come form this is that he gets exercise while I tease.  He pulls and strains at the rope.  That is resistance training.  The contractions in his pelvic area are a great form of stomach crunch.  At points while I was teasing him, most of his body was quivering while he was standing.  What a fun form of exercise.  I can't wait for tomorrow.

Tested Teasing Outdoors

I did a short test of the restraints today.  As you can see, each foot was attached to a hook that pulled against wristcuffs.  He wasn't bound too tightly for this first try as I wanted to see how it worked.  If he was stretched more, his hand would be that the angles of 10 and 2 on the clock and his legs would be a little more apart.  For this first tease, I pulled up a chair in front of him and played with his body using ice.  I stuck one in his ass and worked them all around his nipples.  I then took a handful and jerked him off with ice.  My other hand iced the area of his balls and behind them as well.  As he had a drop of precum on his cock before we ever started, he was close to orgasm fairly quickly.

   

To cool him down, I tried pushing a small piece of ice into his peehole.  He leaned forward against the restraints trying to kiss me.  I let him for a while but it always seemed that he couldn't keep that position for long as he would very quickly get to the edge of orgasm.  He was under strict instructions to warn me way before he was going to lose control.  He was good about that and we were able to avoid any mistakes.  As I only had about 30 minutes to do anything today, after about three edges, I took him to the bathroom where he put the cage back on.  

Tomorrow, we will start earlier so that I have plenty of time to make him desperate.  I want to see if he will moan the way he does in the bedroom when I get him that close.  He says that he doesn't want the neighbors looking over the wall so he will have to control himself.  I will do my best to test that.  Afterwards, I might go in the pool with him and let him serve me there.  My pictures were not the best - hopefully, I can take better ones tomorrow.  I expect that many of you want something of me...at least the men reading this...the women probably prefer this, no?  I will see if anything suitable is available to share.  

I'm resetting the orgasm clock

After thinking about things and talking to another couple in a similar relationship, I am convinced that my husband should have known he was going to orgasm.  As such, the outdoor play is delayed until next Wednesday or Thursday.  The time in the cage continues as well.  He was going to get the holiday weekend out of the cage but now it stays on.  At minimum, he should have better control over himself.  I don't want to do this outdoor fantasy of mine unless he is desperate to orgasm.  I want his hips bucking before we even start.  In any event, our child is out of school early today and we are having people over in the late afternoon.  There is too much for him to do in getting ready for all of this.  We won't be alone all weekend and Tuesday is when the people come to cut the lawn.

I'm very disappointed that he delayed my plans but such is life.  Hopefully, he will learn to pay attention next time.

Outdoor Bondage and Teasing Wednesday

This looks like a good way to have him tied up outside Wednesday.  Not sure he can do much moving if the legs and arms are attached to each other like this.  If he starts to pull his arm, the leg will be pulled to tight.  If he tries to bring his legs together, the arms will not allow the movement.  Simple but effective, no?

I may need to wait one last day as there is a chance that a worker may need to come over tomorrow.  I suppose that I could lock the gate that is never locked.  Then again, he normally comes late in the day.  Do I start with the idea that we may be interrupted and need to untie him quickly?

Whether it is Wednesday or Thursday, this is in the cards for my husband very soon.  I cannot wait to do it.  While out there, I will be sure to take many pictures.

My Feelings and Emotions in FemDom

Serving B brought up a good point.  What are my feelings and emotions about all of this?  In the beginning, I thought of this as a game that brought us closer together.  I still do but it has become more than that.  It is a way that we are connected more deeply.  He has given his ability to orgasm to me while I have accepted that and the increased responsibilities that it brings.  He has handed over something very important to a man and expects me to use that responsibly.  There is an emotional rawness between us that is happening.  That seems to be solving some of my issues of insecurity that showed up in my spending and other feelings of potential abandonment.  Now I know that he we are completely connected and moreso everyday.

With everything going on related to his work, this is a nice distraction.  It is more than that too.  It gives us something not related to the daily pressures.  We have physical closeness from this that might not happen with the distractions.  This gets us to be together even more.  It has made me feel more wanted by him.  Men don't realize but when they masturbate, their interest in sex goes down which also affects the amount of attention they give their women.  With kids, work and daily pressures, it is easy to not put in the energy of sexuality with each other.

There is also the chance to explore fantasies with each other more.  I am thinking about things far more than I would have without it.  That is good for both of us.  I think the idea of people paying attention to what we do turns me on even more.  The combination of controlling him, the voyeurism of the blog and the community of supporters all impact how I feel.  Having met those who can help me deal with this has made a big difference too.  In meeting that couple, I realized that this is a great way to keep a relationship alive and very interesting.  It is like a book - we have started a different journey together.  I'm not sure what that ending is but it is a fun journey that beats the hum drum that might be the case without it.

As I think of more, I will share it in new posts.