Blogging Break Over

Sorry for dropping off for the last two weeks.  I didn't real have much to post about.  I think I also needed a break from posting all the time - I felt the blog getting flat.  Hopefully, I can rekindle the past energy.

Well, to remind you all, our child seems to have her ears up about us doing anything.  This put a kind, and not the good kind, into our play.  I finally got her to sleep while my husband was awake last night.  After he stroked me to a nice little orgasm, I took over on him and kept edging him while reminding him to be super quiet.  I would tease him to the edge over and over.  After one tease, just as I stopped, he orgasmed.  How rude to ruin my fun!  Afterwards, while he was happy for the release, he said it wasn't as fulfilling because I had stopped stroking and he was fighting it off.  Nevertheless, he came a lot so I don't know how much it could have ruined.  Anyhow, I will try again tonight and see if I he can last a little longer while in me. 

I'm going out of town for a few days with our child and he is staying behind to watch the animals and work. 

What else?  He did a good job on his diet but needs to start with some muscle build up.  I will get some pics on here for you in the next week.  I know that I owe all sorts of pictures on here.  I will try and do them as soon as life allows it.

Again, sorry for my absence.

Wife on Top

We got to play on Saturday but not nearly long enough.  Our child did not want to sleep over at her friend's house and came home around 8pm.  That still gave us time to have some fun.  After having him run errands, do a few things around the house and shave his upper body and pubic area bare, we went to the bedroom where I let him remove the cock cage.  He gave me a great massage for the longest time.  After a while, I let him go down on me - something I don't allow that often and lick me to a nice orgasm.  After that, I had him get out the massager and massage a couple of more orgasms out of me while I teased his cock to the edge.  It is amazing how sensitive his cock is after two weeks in the cage.  I had to stop all of the time as he couldn't handle the strokes.  Next, I told him to lie down and not cum without permission.  After riding him for a bit, I could feel myself getting close again.  While I wanted him to pound me from behind, he did not have the endurance.  Instead, I rode him to a mutual simultaneous orgasm.  Afterwards, he told me that it felt better than most times as the pleasurable feelings continued for him even after his orgasm.  That is rare he said as he gets too sensitive.  This time was different. 

About thirty minutes later, he went to pick our child up.  I was nice and gave him the rest of the weekend off from the cage.  It goes back on in the morning.

When Child is Away, the Parents Play?

Our child is away for the day.  There is even a chance that we may have a full night alone.  That is a rarity around here.  I'll update this post as the day/night develops. 

Argument FOR Male Chastity

His moodiness went away today.  You'd swear that he has the monthly visitor and not me. 

I have had a couple of people ask, why do women enjoy men in chastity?  I can't speak for others but as for me, I like the control of him.  I like knowing that he cannot get any sexual satisfaction without me.  Is it the power?  The control?  Both?  Probably.  I also like that other women really can't hope to get anywhere with my man.  What is he going to do?  Show them the cage and the ring on his finger.  Actually, I know of many "happily" married men and women who conveniently lose the ring and cheat.  Even my most religious friends do that.  While I trust my husband, I don't trust the outside world.  With a divorce rate of 50% for America and closer to 75% in California, why not take a little extra precaution?  As I have said before, the ring on your finger should really be a ring around his cock.  Face it, men are weak.  Many women are the ones who decide if there will be a rendezvous or not.  The cock cage answers all of that and enforces marriage vows with a chastity vow.  As an extra benefit the man is more attentive as well.  Where is the down side?  Trust but verify.  Love, honor and obey - not love, honor and betray.

Would love to hear your thoughts.  I know some feel it is barbaric and others want this to be based on trust but this really causes us and others like us to be more connected.  Where is the downside?  I don't see it.  Do you?

Men - share this with your woman. 

Lovey Dovey in Chastity & Kathy Griffin Topless

Why does it take two weeks of 24/7 chastity for my man to get all lovey dovey and attentive?  I finally have him the way I want and he has the nerve to ask if he can get out of the cage or do something sexual.  Why would I want him out so soon when he is finally behaving the way I like?  I teased him a little and said a firm 'no' to him.  Plus, I'm having my monthly visitor so he is just going to have to wait.

Work had him a little worked up tonight - seems a number of deals didn't close.  Anyhow, he needs to control his enthusiasm in work and not have high ups and downs.  Just like he needs to stay at this way of behaving for me. 

Surprise

I got a nice morning surprise from my husband.  As I was waking up, his fingers lightly caressed my legs leading up to my sex.  In no time, he had me wet.  I went and reached for his caged cock and grabbed the base jerking him off as much as the cage would allow.  He kept tickling my sex getting me hotter then pressing himself up against my back.  I could feel him pressing against me.  I started to orgasm having to muffle my desire to moan as the doors between the bedrooms was open.  The feeling was wonderful - I seemed to have denied myself this lovely feeling for unknown reasons lately.  While he wanted to start a second one for me, I could hear movement in the house and told him 'no'.  Lucky for us as our little one slinked her way into the room only a few minutes later.

I don't know why but his inability to orgasm brings out a greater desire in me to both have sex and tease him.  Hopefully, we will have more chances tonight.

Delight in a Caged Cock

I wonder if other women out there feel the same as I do - I love having my husband in the cock cage.  I just get more interested in sex and sexual things knowing that he is locked up.  This morning I played with him a little before work and when he got home I did the same thing.  Hopefully, we can get some alone time before one of us falls asleep tonight as I want him to at least rub me to a bit of satisfaction.

The question as always when I get him in the cage is when to let him out for a bit of fun.  The tease is just so erotic knowing that each day he gets better and better.  He shows more attention, reacts more to my touch and is so much more agreeable. 

Weaker of the Species

I put him back in the cage today.  I had hoped to have some fun with him at lunch but life got in the way and totally ruined the mood.  I had teased him a lot this morning with the promise of more at lunch but it just didn't happen.  Now he is locked up until the mood strikes me again.  I am interested, don't get me wrong but I can't just turn it on and off like a guy.  I also didn't like leaving him out of the cage where he is away from me most of the days and sometimes has to do quick trips around the area that can keep him away until 9 or 10pm with little to no notice.

An online friend that blogs under Femdom Fiancee was having a worse problem with her sub - he was telling her that because of his job, he couldn't wear it during the daytime.  Then she caught him masturbating which is a big violation of their contract.  Anyhow, he is locked up now as well.

That is the thing with most men - when you give them the fantasy that they want of a strong woman, they try to push it.  Why can't they just accept that they got their wishes and enjoy it and live with the parts that might be a challenge?  It shows how men may be physically stronger but they are the weaker of the species.

By the way, these pictures are from the wordpress blog, naked men happy women.  Very hot blog.

Out Like a Lamb

When they say in like a lion and out like a lamb or vice versa, that seems to be us this month.  Not a lot to post here since Tuesday.  He has been out straight with work while our child has been battling a sore throat and enlarged tonsils.  My other daughter had hers out at 10 while my husband lost his at 18 so I'm keeping an eye on this. 

I gave him the week off from the cage but it is 100% going back on Monday morning.  I don't like him out there without it on. 

I'm going to try and get back to writing up some of the things that I have been reading.  There is a lot of interesting information out there to share with you.  Maybe later today.

Karma

Today I gave him a morning treat - a handjob before work.  He has been so good lately on a whole bunch of things that I wanted to give it to him.  If we had more time, I might have been more elaborate but I knew he had to get to work and I just felt like giving him a nice send off on the day.  I think most women in charge should realize that sometimes we need to change things up and do something for our men.  It can't always be one way.  I know most men like that but still I think mixing things up is good too.

This should be a fun week - we have a few events to go to this week related to fashion and runways.  I'll see if there are any pictures worth sharing.  I know I owe you naughty ones but that will happen when it happens. 

Oh, remember that asshole boss my husband had many months ago?  Not only did he lose his job and over a million dollars in stock because the company is worth nothing but he is having to sell his house, move out of town and take his kids out of private school.  Pretty amazing for someone who was making over $400,000 a year for a long time.  Talk about wasting a good thing.  I feel bad for his kids but not him.  He brought pain, anguish and suffering to an awful lot of people.  Maybe this is one of the few times where karma kicked in.  It seems like the bad people and the wealthy always have things work out for them while the rest of us scratch around.  Some fairness is nice to see. 

A Whole Week in Review

I apologize for taking the whole week off from posting.  In truth, I was tired of posting.  With my husband very busy with work, I got lazy on keeping this fresh.

So let's go back to last Saturday and our night alone.  First off, we went with friends to see another friend perform on stage.  That went until 10pm.  Then we went out to a very dinner.  I would get into everything but all of the people we were with are pretty famous so I don't think it is a good thing to talk in specifics.  Anyhow, we finally got back to the room around 1am.  We were both exhausted and literally passed out. 

The next morning, I started teasing his cock.  I would take him to the edge and stop.  I would take him closer and stop again.  I think on the third time, he tensed but didn't say he was cumming - but he did.  When I told him what happened, he said it wasn't possible as he clenched and didn't feel an orgasm.  When I showed him the mess all over my hand and his body, he was surprised.  I'm not sure if that was sincere or not. 

Men, tell me, can you orgasm and not feel it?  Could you be fighting it so much that you don't feel the actual spilling of your seed?

As I was having a heavy visit from my monthly visitor, that was okay with me.  We got ready and spent some time out and about before meeting our friends who had kept our daughter over night.  We had a nice late breakfast, walked around on an absolutely beautiful day and then hit the road to return home.

Over the course of the week, there were a lot of distractions that were not very sexual.  The people at his old job were all fired - even the one whose family owned a good chunk of the business.  Can you imagine being so bad that you get kicked out of your own company?  I was told that the company is going to fail at some point and the only way to satisfy the creditors was to get rid of the management.    This is good for my husband as his departure last year came with whispers that he did something wrong or was incompetent.  Given that his new employer is very strong and will take business from the old company, the whisperers are realizing that what they were told were lies.

In general, this awful economy seems to be getting the better of some of the bad people.  Sadly, many good people are getting hurt first as the ones in power try to keep their positions for as long as possible.  It's the same way in government but that isn't for this blog.

I have been teasing him to the edge quite a bit on Friday and today.  He seems very horny.  I am too.  I really haven't gotten much satisfaction lately and need it.  Hopefully, we will get good chances this week.  As our child has a friend over this weekend, it has been tough to do anything even at night.  We might have time alone tomorrow but that is to be seen.

As for the pictures I owe you here, that early orgasm last Sunday meant no pictures.  I'm thinking either tomorrow or Tuesday will be my next chance for that.  One way or the other, I will post pictures this week.

What else?  I'm having him do the dishes more.  Massage me when we watch television or go out to eat.  I've let him out of the cage more but that means that I need to check and get him hard to make sure he hasn't masturbated.  So far, he seems okay although I am putting him back in tomorrow.

Hotel tonight

Off for an evening without the little one about two hours from home.  She will be staying with a friend about a mile from the hotel that we will be staying at.  Too bad that I am having my monthly visitor.  Visits at the worst times.  Anyhow, it will be nice to have a night alone for a change. 

This is probably when I will take some of those pictures I have been meaning to.  A nice shot of his cock and my feet seems like fun.  If you all can think of anything else you want, please tell me.

In general, we have been at a bit of a lull lately - my apologies as it doesn't make for the best posts.   He has been working hard at his job while I have been working to get my diet going.  I'll post updates on Sunday with hopefully those pics I've been bad at getting for a while.

Husband's Relief

Melody and Paul Wedina (1988)

I gave him a little relief yesterday.  You can go to his side of the blog if you want the details.  I don't think an orgasm while half erect and caged and struggling to let the cum out is what he was hoping for but he got some relief which is what he wanted.  I had lots of fun plans for this weekend but now I have my monthly visitor.  That doesn't mean we still can't have fun - it will just need to adjust a little bit which is not what I wanted.  Such is life.  It will be nice to have a night alone with him though.

What is in Store this Week?

Up WAY too early today.  Our house cat got out and I couldn't really sleep until my husband found him around 5:30am this morning. 

He says that he is coming home for lunch today (husband, not cat).  Hopefully we can do something then.  We should be without child Saturday night so at least a few fun days are coming.  Whether he does or not is another question.   In general, I find that my interest in sex goes down the longer I go without and goes up the more I get.  I know he has been trying to get my interest up but the diet had me feeling off.  I've dropped off the diet for a week and will be restarting soon enough.

Phase 3 of His Diet

Art by Robert Mapplethorpe

Well, he started Phase 3 of his diet (Phase 1 was prep while Phase 2 was the hCG diet).  Phase 3 is where he spends the next three weeks holding his weight between 185 and 189 pounds.  No starches or sugars. Vegetables with a low glycemic index.  This is because with this diet you have to reset your internal chemistry and metabolism after a six week period of such rapid weight loss.  He did very well losing 25 pounds in six weeks.  His calorie intake will move up from the 500 calorie level to closer to 1,500. 

During this period, he will need to begin working on building lean muscle.  This means some mild aerobics and weight training.  The trick is to do it with lower weights but until muscle fatigue occurs.  Lots of situps and crunches.   He will be getting measured tonight - biceps, waist, thighs, chest, etc.  I will have him set-up a side page on his blog where those who are interested can monitor his progress.  Ideally, his chest should be 10" more than the waist.   By adding the muscle, his body fat level will go down.  I'm not sure if the weight drops but his waist size should tighten.  The last phase will also be for three weeks.  After that, he should be all set to return to a normal diet although one where most of the sugars are limited.  This is part of many longeivity diets - processed sugars are just awful for us.  It means more fiber, fruit and vegetables along with lean protein.

Sometime this week, I hope to get him alone at the house to take pictures with the feet and who knows what.  Hopefully, it will be a return to more of the sexier posts.  As for me, I cut my diet cycle down to 30 days - I was struggling with the lower calories.  I believe that I am going to need to do a number of cycles to get to where I hope to have him by mid-May. 

He remains in the cage as there has really been no chance or need to have him out.

Art by Lilith

Need Your Opinion

I'm curious what you think about my husband sub's body.  I think it is fine and he just needs to build muscle.  He thinks he should lose another 5-10 pounds.  I'm going to put up a poll.  I would like your honest thoughts.  Thanks.

In Like a Lamb

I know I haven't posted all week.  My apologies.  The truth is that I haven't had much going on.  I fell off the diet truck mid-week and I've been trying to get back on it.  In general, haven't been feeling the greatest suffering from headaches yesterday and today.  My husband is back in lock up (or is it lock down).  He has fun coming but with his travel and the way I have felt, there really was no opportunity or need for him to be out of it.

I think he has lost about as much weight as I want.  He needs to start working on building up the muscles now.  I will have him take a picture and post it either tonight or tomorrow so you can see what I mean.  He still have a little on his tummy but I don't want him getting all saggy.  He needs to start getting the muscles bigger so that won't happen.

So on the sex front, not a lot.  Sorry as I know that is what most of you are interested in.  Maybe this weekend.  We will have to see.

Lost Monday

From the 2009 Seattle Erotic Art Fest

His work got in the way of a fabulous blow job leading to him cumming on my feet today.  It seems a customer came in at Noon that kept him until 1:30pm.   I really want to do this picture during the day time when the light is good and our little one isn't around. 

I don't know if you noticed his weight but it went up one pound last night even though he ate only an apple, some fish and steamed spinach yesterday.  That would normally lose at least a pound.  For the week, he lost the lowest amount to date despite only one meal a day for three days!  This shows how drinking effects your weight for days.  He should start seeing improvement either tomorrow or Wednesday but he essentially lost the better part of a week for about 5 ounces of tequila and a shot of whiskey.  The sugars totally fuck up the diet. 

He made moves to get me interested last night which I had to tell him to read a book to.  I was feeling off a bit and tired.  As you all know, I should be the one making the initial move on him.  Maybe some day he will figure it out.

Oscars, eBook and Weight Loss

With the departure of my elder daughter and her family early afternoon, I settled in to watch the Oscars.  It didn't seem like there were many upsets except maybe the foreign film with Javier Bardem in it. 

I was looking for eBooks on my iPad and stumbled across this.  Remember my post about that interesting woman, Cindy Gallop?  She released a book that is top of the charts.  Can I accidentally pick them or what?  Anyhow, we should all support strong woman.  The book is only $2.99 and looks important for anyone with a child.

On the homefront, my husband had been very good for two days getting by on only an apple and a dinner each day.  Today he was going to weaken and asked for lunch around 2pm.  I told him that he would have to hold on for an early dinner at 5:30pm.  He should be seeing the affect of the drinking Thursday night today and tomorrow.  We will see if it causes his weight to go back up after good days from Friday to Sunday.  I might be wrong but the drinking should cause his weight to stay the same or go up over the next few days if he doesn't stay deprived.  On that front, he is definitely showing signs of a higher libido.  Let's see what we can do with that this week. 

As for me on the diet, I cheated but with a grapefruit on Saturday.  We have so many in our yard.

That's it for tonight.  I'll post more tomorrow - maybe even the long delayed but often thought about foot pics.

Blown Blow-Jobs and Life

Well, the seven days of blowjobs didn't work out as expected.  While that was the plan going into the seven days, schedules, diet and life got in the way.  Today, I was hoping to do the foot shot but he got stuck in meetings and didn't make it home before our child.  Some made good comments that I didn't fulfill my anniversary gift.  Sorry to say but life gets in the way. 

I think we will try again next week.  I'm letting him stay out of the cage for a bit longer - he isn't travelling anywhere so that is fine.  I will put him back soon enough but not immediately. 

As for diets, I was queasy this week getting used to things.  I've lost almost twenty pounds so far.  Sadly, I'm still a few pounds more than my husband - that will be fixed very soon.  I should be about 35-40 below him.  I think a mix of boredom, stress from his job situation for most of last year and my natural compulsiveness were what caused it. 

What else?  I'm watching my newborn granddaughter tonight and tomorrow.  She is the cutest.  Not very sexy to most of you but this is also part of the happiness of life. 

Day 6 of 7

Well, he fell asleep before I got to bed last night again.  As such, he lost the chance on Day 6.  Today is his last chance for a while although I do need to do the foot shot for the blog.

Oh, I met someone online who has been following the blog and sending ideas now and then for a while.  I'm all excited as he has offered to make or help my husband make some fun toys for use on my husband.  One is a board that we would strap him down to so that he can't move an inch when I'm tormenting him.  I'll add a better picture of that later today.  The one you need for our play would keep his legs spread - this one that is sold online doesn't do that.  There were other things like a ball crusher, cock stretcher and more.  The one we talked about that I hope we can figure out is one where he is strapped down but if he struggles, it either pinches his nipples more tightly or squeezes his balls or sticks something up his ass.  We are noodling that while my husband works to making his better cock trap a reality.  Hopefully, if any of this works, I can make this my job - I would love to help other women do what I am doing - and make money from it. 

Days 4 and 5 of 7

As you could read from his post, he got teased but no action those two days.  On Sunday, everyone was exhausted from a long day of driving and going out and about.  Monday, I just felt off from the diet and had to take a pass until the evening.  When I got to bed, he was sound asleep so that opportunity was lost by him.  He still has Tuesday and Wednesday left before lock-up so he might get a bit more.  I know I promised him an orgasm a day but I'm not going to wake him up to do it for him.  If he is asleep and can't wait, then the opportunity is lost.

Among the things I need to do is the foot orgasm as I promised a number of people that shot for the blog.  I will see if that can be a midday photo shoot during one of his lunch breaks. 

Day 3 of his 7 days of gift

On night #2 of his seven nights of fun, he fell asleep before I could come to bed.  As such, he lost his chance.  The next day, we actually had some alone time.  I wasn't in the mood for sex but needed a massage.  He gave me a great one cracking my back and loosening my spine better than anyone  has done in a long time - even professionals.  I rewarded him with a tease and orgasm by hand.  He came a huge mess.  No, I didn't make him recycle it - I know you want me too - but we were both relaxed and just fell asleep until the idiot dogs started barking.  He has four more days of this and no cage.

Have a full day so I'll try and post more tonight.

My LolliPop

Well, I gave him the orgasm I promised last night.  It was very quick taking me maybe one minute.  As he always must, he told me he was on edge so I stopped and told him 'good night'.  After he begged for completion, I smiled and then stroked him to orgasm in about ten seconds.  No, he didn't consume it - I used a warm cloth and put him to bed.

Now we have a few more nights of this.  I hope he doesn't think that he will get off so easy every night.

Wednesday night

An odd way to pogo.

I see that he wrote about the early anniversary gift last night.  That was quite thoughtful of him.  The funny thing is that when we were getting ready for bed, he asked if he could take off the cage.  I told him politely, 'no', and that I wanted him to keep it on until tomorrow night so that he could take it off for our anniversary.  I then sent him off to check on our child. 

Isn't it funny what men will do to get a little action or think that they can get something?  They are so conniving.  Well, today is our anniversary.  Let's see what is in store for him.  As tomorrow is a half day followed by a three-day weekend, it will be much easier to monitor his uncaged actions. 

Anniversary on the 17th

I think I told all of you that I promised him a blowjob a day for our anniversary week.  I don't think I promised that I would swallow or let him cum although after three weeks of denial, I think he is entitled to some relief.  I know a few people offered ideas but the time is upon us so I would like to hear your thoughts.  For example, many people want to see him orgasm on my feet and clean it up.  I suppose I could give him a blow job and then have him cum on my toes.  That works, right?  Also, should I blow him but stop short of orgasm?  You will see in the poll the question on swallowing.  Anyhow, please share your thoughts and ideas.  You can post here, IM me at wifekeyholder on Yahoo most days or send me an email at khwife@gmail.com.

Thanks.

Happy Valentine's Day

I wanted to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day.  I think the day has been overcommercialized.  If we are doing it right, every day is Valentine's Day.  As I know a number of people who read this have unique interests, try slowly exposing your partner to this if you have not.  For those who dream of it but are single, go to a munch or in some other way try and meet like minded people.  Use this as a day to create more emotional harmony.

Diet and Taking More Control

Sorry to have been quiet for a few days.  Not a lot going on in advance of Valentine's Day and our anniversary a few days later.  Main thing has been getting these diets off the ground.  While I started a week after him, I am only a few pounds behind him in weight loss.  I talked things over with him this morning and we agreed that his ideal weight should be 175 pounds.  That means it will be closer to 40 pounds that he is losing.  Once that is done, we will get into firming our bodies and getting into the best shape possible.  I also had a friend who is a doctor look at him last night and I'm thinking that he will have a few small procedures to keep wrinkles or saggy skin on his face tight.  I've enjoyed controlling his diet and expect to keep it that way in the future.   Some of this is because I am making these decisions.  Other parts are for him to be in fighting shape in his new job so that he can rise way above the people who got rid of him a few months ago.  They are all losing their jobs and looking awful so I think the best thing we can do is project happiness, fitness and strength while they are a bunch of overweight and bloated greedy a**holes set to receive what they deserve after years of selfishness.

On nicer things, if I touch him he is in heaven.   It can be as simple as caressing his stomach or kissing him.  I think that means that he is about where I wanted him going into this special week for us.  I have at least one day totally alone with him where we will be busy if you know what I mean.  For you, this means a few pictures too finally.  I really apologize for the delay on this but there have been no good chances to do what I have promised.

For the rest of today - Grammy red carpet! 

Here is a song I like that is popular in the Middle East by Natasha Atlas.  I found her on the Buddha Bar CDs.  This song is telling people to stop the fighting.  Hopefully, a new day is happening in the Middle East. 

Lunch Break

Read my husband's blog if you have time.  I will tell you what really happened.  I was at home watching the news on Egypt and using Facebook when he came home for lunch.  As I didn't get up to make it in about 10 minutes, he said he would make it.  I said 'no', wait for me.  Well, he pressed it so in about 2 minutes it was made.  I decided to tease him with words for a little bit which he thought I meant sex.  Nope.  Anyhow, I didn't mind the leg rub but going further was not in my mood.  So he hangs around another 45 minutes trying to get me to do something which now there is no chance I will.  As he gets ready to go, I tease his nipples through his shirt and give him a 'fuck me' erotic kiss.  So then he unbuttons his shirt!  Who is in charge here?  So I go for it, rub him a few time and then twist the shit out of them.  I did it over and over and harder and harder to make a point.  First, I enjoy seeing him squirm.  Second, I am the one who decides when and how we do things.

Tonight, I made his exact portions for dinner.  After, when he came over, I gave him a kiss, reached under his sweat shirt and twisted the nipple really hard again.  Sadly, today had to be some education for him.  Maybe he will understand better for the future.

PS: As for Egypt, that cocksucker Mubarak has to go.  I wish the Cubans had the balls to do what the Egyptians are doing in the face of the evil dictator.  I pray for their safety.

Here is a great song by Rinôçérôse called "Bitch".  They are a duo from France - the woman bass player and the man in white.  Why they aren't popular here says bad things about America.  Europe is hip to quality music.  The guest singer on this one is a bit flamboyant.

Looking Back

Someone asked a good question of me the other day.  Where are we going with this FemDom thing.  In truth, I don't think of it as FemDom first.  I just see things as I control what goes on inside the house.  My husband is my husband and he is naive in some ways and needs my guidance on certain things.  I also know he is probably kinkier than me.  This is part of the reason that the cage is such a good thing.  Not that he would do anything but with it on, I don't need to wonder what is going on when he is away for a long time for work or with friends. 

So where is this going?  First, I think it is going toward a stronger marriage.  Those who have read it all year know of some of the challenges we have had to deal with.  I think we are the strongest of anytime in our marriage.  We are both hornier toward each other too.  Maybe that is because we are both settling in to roles that we are both more comfortable with.  Second, we are cleaning up our eating act to get more fit.  I want both of us to be smoking hot for our ages.  I won't spend hours in the gym but we will get really fit.  Also, we are exploring and trying new things.  What that means exactly will be proven out in time.  If you think about it, my controls with him have increased - he is now on a diet that I run; he is wearing clothes that I have more of a say in; around the house he is taking my lead more.  As for me, I am less interested in the material things although I would love an iPad.

Well, I'm sure there is more but these are the big pieces without talking about something specific like we will use this sex toy or do this sex thing.  Those things will just evolve as we grow as a couple open to more exploration of our interests and marriage.  Along these lines, I know so many of you want what we have.  I am serious when I say to share this blog with your other half.  Remember, I didn't start wanting to do all these things.  My Catholic raising led me to think that these things should be suppressed.  As I went into things a little further and further, I gained confidence and found that this was something I wanted that my husband craved too.  Be brave and somehow start the conversations.  Be slow in bringing it up.  Just talk about the adventures of us as well as a few others on here who blog like this.  Life is short - make yourself happy.

Thank You!

I don't know how to thank you enough for your interest and desire to follow our evolving FemDom Marriage.  I have learned from many of the ideas and suggestions given by those with more experiences or ideas that I would have never thought of or tried without your help.  In trying to think of a way to thank you and give you my own Valentine, I am thinking more pictures is a start.  Another way is to continue trying things new that you will find interesting.  I would do that anyway but the support system you provide is helpful.

On a personal note, I had some hair extensions that a friend and hair dresser gave me.  She put them in today.  Hopefully, you will see bits of it in future pictures.  The diet continues.  I started a week after my husband and will probably be on the diet for about four months.  For him, I think he can get where he needs to in half that time.  Of course, you will be seeing more pictures of him than me so you can judge for yourself soon enough.  Once the weight is off, the next part is increasing each of our tone.  That will mean a different challenge in lifting weights, stair machines and situps to name a few of the exercises.

Hopefully, we will have some quality alone time soon.  I know I need it.  Today he had a little time but I wasn't here.  Soon enough, I will get him to work.

Okay, here is today's music - Sade's "No Ordinary Love".  She is one of my favorites and the song speaks to the idea of all of our interests here:

Anniversary and Updates

What a busy girl!

My husband asked me what I want for our anniversary.  I told him an iPad.  I'd like a bigger trip or maybe a spa retreat where a plastic surgeon does an overhaul on me but that will need to wait for the diet to be closer to done and more money in the bank account.  We can't go out for much of a special dinner given our diets.  With the animals, a trip is tough too. 

As for what to give him, I told him that I was thinking of giving him a blow job a day for a week.  I wonder if he could handle it after the way things have been.  Now if I give him the blow jobs, I think I need to let him cum.  Since I won't be swallowing, maybe he should?  Any thoughts you may have are appreciated.  This is only an early thought.

Got my toenails done today so I am ready-ready for the toe shots.  I will do those next week if I can.  That might include a cage though - we will see.  Having just finished with my monthly visitor, my interest in sex is pretty high.

On the diet front, I'm down 5 pounds in 5 days.  I was thinking about posting it but then decided not to as I am not the one on total display like my husband.  You can see his weight loss beginning to make a difference - his face definitely shows it. 

For this video choice, here is one I like.  Do you know Gus Gus?  This was a song they did last year that I just heard.  Doubtful that anyone in the U.S. knows it as it is very European.  I'm glad that the vocalist is back.

Men Need to be Locked Up

Seeing and reading everything that I do in life, I think so many problems could be solved if all men were in chastity cages.  Men can go ahead and continuing with thinking that they are ruling the world but if they are bad, then they are going to be locked up for a long time.  When you see so many of the awful things going on with corrupt politicians who cheat their people, you have to know that they act the same way in their personal life.  Look at Egypt, Murbarek is an old man who was known to enjoy all sorts of women outside of his marriage.  Women are more likely to build and nurture while men seem to like seeing things explode whether it is an orgasm or a gun. 

So men reading this, tell your girlfriend or wife that you want to ensure that you are giving them your 100% attention sexually.  No cheating, no masturbating, no anything without them.  Lock it up and give them the key.  The more powerful the man, the more he needs this. I think it is much more interesting when a strong man gives himself up.  The wimpy ones are just boring.  I don't see why a strong woman would want a wet noodle of a man.

Now for men eating their orgasms - I still don't fully get it so I guess I may need to try it for a while to see if there is a reason for it.  I'm sure he will be up for it until the minute he has to do it.  Then it will be like the past where he has this 'who me' look on his face.  We will see.  The time is soon as I am in the mood for some fun.

Not my best post, my apologies.  In starting my diet today, now I am the one having headaches.  He seems fine now that he is on the right mix of hcg.  Also, he is eating a little more which will slow the weight loss but help him feel stronger.

Anniversary is Coming Soon

With our 10 year marriage anniversary coming as well as his 1 year anniversary of being in the cage, what would be a good way to celebrate?  Should they be done together or separate?  Keep your ideas on a modest budget as the summer took a lot out of our finances.  That said, I would love to hear some ideas for all of you.  Maybe that can help me to come up with a plan if his isn't so good.

So I know I haven't been that erotic and sexy lately.  I promise that will be changing soon.  The foot pictures are way overdue and he knows I need to get those done.  There also seems to be a lot of you that like the idea of me using the strap on.  I like that too.

Looking at the poll, I was surprised how overwhelming the results were for him consuming most of his orgasms.  I don't think I heard from anyone that actually does that.   I take that back - maybe one guy. Is this just a fantasy for all of you?  I think it is time for us all to move from fantasy to reality.

Okay, another video that I first heard with some family who lives in Europe and speaks no English.  The whole house including a 4 year-old were singing this song.   I almost wet myself I laughed so hard.  I won't say what the song is - find out yourself if you are interested.

A Quiet Day

For the first day in almost two weeks, I had it to myself.  I was bad and did almost nothing watching television way too much.  Our child was at school and my husband was at work.  I had wanted him to get home for lunch but he couldn't.  I told him that he will need to get home for lunch this week as I need him for a few things that need attention.  I won't say what that attention is but you and he can guess.  Anyway, you will find out soon enough. Woman will know that as the monthly visitor leaves, there is an increased interest in all sorts of things.

Since he wasn't feeling too good the last few days on the diet and I am getting started on it this week, I read everything again.  I think I figured out some of his problem.  He was taking the weight loss hCG and the maintanence pills for after.  I guess that means that he was getting extra this first week.  Still, he got a good start.  He was so tired tonight so I gave him a B-12 shot and let him help our child finish homework.  I think that they are almost done.  Both wanted to see "Chuck" tonight but it is looking a bit late.  Maybe tomorrow.

That goes for him too.  Maybe tomorrow. 

Things to Do...

Well, my diet is starting in a serious way in 48 hours.  Hubby has been doing his and the results are obvious already.  He is also horny again after only a few days and has asked twice if I'd let him out for a little loose time this weekend.  Honestly, he is pushing it too much.  I want him to be focused on losing the weight for now and not thinking about that thing between his legs.  I think as he loses weight, his libido is going up.  It probably doesn't help that I tease him a little all the time.

I was looking at my feet today and remembered that I owe you new pictures.  They are 100% back to sexy.   My feet on his caged cock is an easy picture.  I will probably do that Monday if he stops by for lunch.  As for letting him cum on my toes and cleaning it up by tongue bath, I think we should wait on that - don't you?  I'm happy to hear the arguments both sides on here.  I'm willing to reconsider if there is a good reason to.

Oh, we have an anniversary in about three weeks.  I think he should wait for that and then, if he makes me feel special, maybe I would let him out.  Part of me thinks that I should make him wait until he loses all the weight.  Isn't that what the strap-ons are for?

Here is a rare video from a favorite group - Crazy P aka Crazy Penis.

End of Week Update

I just noticed that the week is over and I haven't been out of the house.  With a sick kid, there really hasn't been any opportunity.  Fortunately, she pretty much healthy now.  My husband won't be working this weekend so I will get some time out and about finally.

While he started his diet, I held off on mine.  I was still getting over a cold and wanted to clear out a few things in the refrigerator.  I'm starting on Sunday.  My goal is 20 pounds in 30 days and then a more modest weight loss plan.  Looking at my husband's progress in four days, he lost 5 1/2 pounds already.  A suit he bought two weeks ago is not too big.  This hCG approach really makes a difference when you follow it exactly.

What else?  I will think about things and come up with a more erotic post later.  After a week inside like this, I need to get out to clear the head.  Looking at the poll results so far, I am impressed almost 95% feel sub men should consume their orgasms.  About 2/3rds think it should be all the time.  I'm curious if there are any men that read this that consume every last drop.    It seems a bit extreme but I understand what you are thinking.

Make love, Not porn

Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn

This woman is something.  I think she is in her fifties and only dates men in their twenties and is opening vocal.  This is not my typical post but I think you will all find her to be amazingly honest.  She is all about women taking power and opening honest discussions.

In a way, that is what I think I do here in my own little way.  She also is about taking action on ideas.

That link shows you a bit about her giving a presentation on her views.  There are many more videos out there but I wanted to point out someone strong women can look up to.